Why is it this way?

Why is it a mother is always expected to be the one who is strong emotionally. Why cant someone else be strong for us for a change. When a mom cries out for help and that she is falling apart, we are told to just strengthen up and it's really not that bad. We are constantly reminded we need to be the rock for our children and spouse, but no one is reminded to be the rock for mom.

We have all been there before, we are sitting there with a child who wont stop crying, or who wont listen to save their life, we sit there at our whits end, and no one comes to rescue us. We are told it's a phase it will pass, or it's just a case of the baby blues.

We sit there and contemplate running away from it all, and still no one comes to rescue us. We reach out to our spouse or significant other, and are told that we cant fall apart because they need us to remain strong, so they dont fall apart.

No one listens till it's too late. Then they all say I didnt know it was this bad, or she didnt seem like she was that depressed. No you didnt know because you always told her it was a phase or she needs to be stronger. She wore a smile because that's what everyone told her to do.

Please I beg of every person reading this, when someone is reaching out, whether it's small comments or a complete break down. Please be their rock, listen to them help them. Even if it's just giving them time to shower and eat a warm meal. Show them you care and can be their rock like she is to you.