It’s the classic scenario of overly emotional mother who is attached to her son because she is neglected by her husband. Cliche, I know.

But I need some advice on how to handle this.

I have been married for about six months now. In that time, my husband has received countless texts and calls where his mom is crying and complaining about how she never gets to see him anymore. In that same time, we have argued about this countless times. She continues to guilt him into driving out of his way just to spend time with her. Even my brother-in-law has stepped up and started to spend more time with my husband’s mom. We have even had a conversation with his mom explaining that we need our own space to develop our relationship (I have to give kudos to my husband here because he really stuck up for our relationship during this conversation). But still, it isn’t enough.

The problem I’m facing today is setting boundaries.

My husband and I just bought a house (YAY!) and we are going to the house tonight for the very first time as owners. And GUESS WHO IS TAGGING ALONG! Yup, my mother-in-law. I told my husband last night that I was disappointed because I was hoping for us to spend our first night at the new house by ourselves - so that we can have our own moment. He understood, but also said that we can have our moment and then hang out with his parents. Although, I don’t think that is the same.

Now, I don’t know what the conversation was between them - whether he invited his parents or they invited themselves. Regardless, I can’t change the fact that his parents are coming over tonight. I’m just thinking ahead for the future. About having a conversation of boundaries with my husband. Is that a good idea? If so, here is my list of boundaries.

- only my husband and I will have keys to the house

- no one’s family or friends should come over unannounced

- no one’s family or friends should be over staying their welcome

- no one’s family or friends should be sleeping over (unless discussed ahead of time)

What more should I add to it? Does it sound too harsh? How can I fix it?

Any other tips on how to handle an emotional and needy mother-in-law are welcome.