Am I wrong for being upset?

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I know it’s a lot sorry 😐 just need to know if I’m overreacting or not.

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Why are y’all having this conversation over text

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I’m sorry you lost your mom 😢😢 That’s tough af to get through . Take as long as you want, there isn’t a certain amount of time . Everyone is different and find people to talk to that have went through the same as you. ❤️❤️

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Sorry for your loss, after re-reading it, it almost sounds like he is not the best with words, and trying to help, just doesn't know how to say it. Believe me, my guy does the same, and I've misread texts so many times and vise versa.

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Hmmm.... this is difficult place for anyone to comment unless they have been thru what you going thru. In a best way I can give an advice is you need to talk to someone who will help you to heal. I think they way texts come across is harsh but I think he means and cares and loves you and all he wants for you is to be happy. But he may be not the guy who can help you heal from close death.  I think you should go talk to therapist. It’s better and it won’t put strain on your relationship. Death is heartbreaking process and no one can take your pain away but someone can make you feel better about the day and time who can listen.  Your husband maybe just the guy who wants to enjoy and be happy and not see you upset and heartbroken and he knows he can’t fix that. Sometimes you have a partner who sees you in so much pain and that partner can’t help you. It’s nothing worst then a feeling helpless. When you so used to helping and able to fix things and then seeing your loved one so hurt and you can’t fix it and take that pain away it’s not easy. Trust me what he is saying isn’t bad and just maybe he feels helpless. Go easy on him. Not everyone knows how to feel about death and they don’t deal the same way. Just go talk to therapist.

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Different people take longer to grieve a loss that big. Just give him love and make sure he knows it’s not a goodbye it’s just I’ll cya later.

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I’m soooo sorry 😢.  I lost my mom 2 years ago and she was young, so I can relate some to what it feels like.  You basically have to learn how to do life all over and I don’t think the pain ever goes away.  I’m so sorry your SO is not understanding.  It might be helpful to tell him that when you’re upset you just need him to be empathetic and listen without feeling like he has to fix anything.  I find that, men especially, sometimes see emotions as ‘problems that have to be fixed’ when really all we need is an ear, compassion and understanding.  He probably doesn’t want to see you hurt, and probably has no idea how to ‘make it better’ so just letting him know he doesn’t need to fix anything or make it better might be helpful for him.  It’s ok to be sad, it’s ok to grieve and it’s ok for it to take as long as it takes.  💕💕

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I think that many times, people have no idea how to offer support during times like this. They don’t know what to say to make it better, but they want you to feel better. It can make them feel powerless and helpless. That can make them feel angry and start saying things they don’t want to really say to you or things that simply won’t help. My advice to you is to talk to your brother instead of your husband. You and your brother have more in common over this issue because you both miss her and you are both grieving. You each understand what you are going through. Your husband simply cannot comprehend from your point of view. And if you don’t want to talk to your brother because you are afraid to bring him down, then I would suggest talking to a therapist. Of course you should be able to talk to your spouse when you are feeling down, but when it’s something like this, that never goes away, you are better off talking to a therapist. Your husband just wants you to feel better. He doesn’t know how to help you though which is making him look extremely insensitive.

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Girl, leave his ass. If he can’t be sympathetic or even be understanding of your feelings in this horrible of a situation, he doesn’t deserve any more of your time. I’m terribly sorry about your mom but you deserve better!

Am I wrong for being upset?

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