Sad 😔

Anyone else having their first baby, but your hubby/bf already has a child? Let me tell ya, it's depressing! My boyfriend and his family aren't even a little bit excited. 😔 they just don't care because it's not their "first". Well it's my first and I'm nervous and excited and I want them to be too! Is that selfish of me? Should I be more understanding? We found out the gender today and my boyfriend hardly reacted. He keeps saying things about how he's been through it all before. I sent his father sonogram pictures and he didn't even reply! 😞 way to make me feel like I don't matter. His father is a pastor and with the first grandchild he had his whole church involved, but with this one he hasn't even told anyone. They won't post it on Facebook and I can't tag my boyfriend in baby things because they don't want to upset his first baby's mother since she doesn't know. I just feel like my feelings are being tossed aside and my baby isn't special to them. Anyone else have this problem or similar?