FTM.. possibly too neurotic!? 😣

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My girl isn’t getting her 2 month shots till Jan.6.  But with Christmas next week we are finally leaving the house!! Our family is 2 Hours away and we are going for 4 nights.  I am so excited to be around other people other than my husband lol.  I am nervous tho because she will be introduced to each side of our families and you know everyone is going to want to hold her and a part of me wants to just hold her close and say no but the other part doesn’t want to be rude then I wonder what if I say, “you can hold her but don’t breathe on her and don’t even think of kissing her!!”  That’s too much right??  I just hate that it’s flu season.. it took me soo long to finally get her and I’d feel awful if she ever got sick before her vaccinations.. how are you moms going about the holidays??

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Not a first time mom, second timer here, but I am a doctor so in my opinion your worries are not neurotic and totally legit. No one comes near my baby if they haven’t had a flu shot, and a tdap. If they do much as have the sniffles or have been exposed to someone confirmed to have had the flu, RSV, or pertussis it’s a no go. Symptom free for at least 72hrs before they come near baby. Might be overkill, but I have seen newborns get incredibly sick because aunt so-and-so kisses them with so much as a cold sore.  I’d rather limit visitors and have them roll their eyes at me than watch my baby go thru all the testing that is required when a baby under 3 months old gets a fever (blood work, spinal tap, chest x-ray, etc).

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I definitely limit peoples interaction unless I know for sure that havent been sick like my  immediate family I am aware of. I still make them wash their hands. At thanksgiving my baby was so overwhelmed with being passed around. I got him back and family laid off for a while. I am limiting it at christmas now. my first baby was fine around the holidays and she was born a week and a half before thanksgiving. So not sure y my 2nd is different but they r. Just be cautious. Do what u want and feel what's good. 
Also if it helps wear baby in a sling or chest carrier so u can have more control over people wanting to hold or touch baby.

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We just spent the weekend at an out of town wedding with over 200 people. She’s just fine. Just do your best to keep them out of her face, and other little kids away from her. Our pediatrician stressed keeping other children far away from her. Idk up to you, but we didn’t stress about it at all.

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Just be smart! Don’t let anyone sick hold her. Have people wash their hands. We don’t let anyone kiss our baby unless they got the tdap vaccine.

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I’m also a first time mom, so I understand the anxiety...but, unfortunately we can’t protect them from everything and we can only do our best to keep them safe. I have had my daughter around several people, and I have zero problems telling people that they need to wash their hands and not to kiss her. I really don’t care how it comes off, it’s our responsibility to protect her the best we can without keeping her confined (which also doesn’t help her immune system). Most of the time I also hand over a swaddle for the person to lay over themselves before carrying her.

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I am also a first time mom and my little guy is going to be one month on 12/19/2018! We have been letting family hold him but they HAVE to wash their hands, no kissing him, and no bringing him up close to their faces or really touching his face at all.
It felt rude telling them at the time, but it’s best for our little guy. He hasn’t had all of his shots yet and I am not taking any chances.
I had RSV as a baby and my mom told me how awful it was! I want to do anything I can to keep my little guy from having to go through that!

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I was really nervous about Thanksgiving because my little guy was only a week and a half old. I wasn't really confident until the 2wk appointment where they said everything looked fine that I started trusting my and my husband's judgement. Both our families were really respectful and the 1 person with a cold voluntarily stayed away. He mentioned later he wasn't going to touch the baby because he had some sniffles. My parents and my in laws, who had been helping me out at home because hubby had to go back to classes, all got sick so they stayed away, again without me having to ask. I was told that, since I got the flu shot while pregnant, he got some of the immunity in utero but also continues to build it up through my breast milk.
I did bring our beco to possibly baby wear at Thanksgiving. I'm kind of timid, but my husband is a huge help in telling people it's time to give him back to me. You just have to do what works and feels right for you. We also don't have other kids in the family, so we're only managing adults.

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I make my kids wash their hands constantly, and the only people that have seen her and held her my mom, brother and mother in law. That’s it. If I go out , which I will be Wednesday, I keep her in stroller covered up

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You’re the mom! You call the shots. Can’t be too careful this time of year.

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We are staying home, not seeing either of our families for Xmas eve or Xmas 😔. I’m disappointed to say the least; and would love to get out and celebrate, but our sons pediatrician said absolutely no family gatherings, especially around children, for 2 months.

FTM.. possibly too neurotic!? 😣

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