Significant other help!

My significant other smokes in our house and I seriously CANT FUCKING TAKE IT ANYMORE 😭! It’s so disgusting and anytime I try to just get him to go at least in the kitchen and sit on the bar stool by the window it’s a fight! I can’t stand the way our house smells, I can’t stand the constant smoke smell, I can’t stand the constant ashes everywhere! He’s become such a damn slob lately and it’s just completely unattractive like why can’t he go into the hallway mud room and smoke so it’s not in the house, the house I feel like doesn’t have a homey smell..it smells so FUCKING stale, I’m constantly washing EVERYTHING because of it, even the curtains because I can’t take it! How can I seriously get this grown ass man to not be so fucking gross !