Anyone still bed sharing?

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I’m so torn. I breastfeed and head back to work in a week. I’ve been bed sharing since the start of 4 month sleep regression and now it’s just habit for my baby and she does NOT want to sleep in her crib at night. Part of me thinks her and me wanting to be so close to each other is the natural animalistic instinct in us and then part of time thinks I need to cut the habit and teach her to self soothe. I’m torn on what to do! Please comment with any helpful info (not interested in being shamed or hearing about suffocating her by accident etc.)

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Before I had my girl I swore I would never bed share. I was worried about her falling or us rolling on her. Especially since my husband is a heavy sleeper and a heavy guy. But that seemed to be the only way she would sleep. If I laid her down after her being asleep for an hour she would wake up instantly and if I had her in bed with me and tried to get up she was awake within 5 minutes. 
I realized it was time when I was having to go to bed at 630 when she did and my life felt so discouraged. I wasn’t accomplishing anything and I wasn’t spending anytime with my husband. I waited till she was 16 weeks and did a combo cry it out Ferber method and by the third day I didn’t need to wait any amount of time before checking on her before she was fast asleep.
I’m not gonna lie the first night was hard. Tears were shed but I just kept thinking we can’t live like this forever and if there is one thing I want for her is for her to be a good sleeper.
I miss our nightly snuggles but she really loves her crib and really only gets up once or twice a night now. And I have my life back :)
Also I think I missed out on the 4 month sleep regression by waiting till when I waited and not having to transition out of a swaddle.
You do what you want, that’s what’s best for you and your baby. If it’s something you can imagine doing for long term then go for it. Perhaps just research all the safety things you can do (like putting your mattress on the floor).... cause my babe can roll now and that’s a Little scary lol

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im slowly trying to transition her into the playpen right next to my bed its not her crib in her room yet and some nights i sneak her into bed but where getting there..

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We were also bedsharing during the regression, but it got to the point where even with that none of us got good sleep because our babe was moving around all night. After one particularly bad night we moved her to the crib in her own room which is right next to ours, and she actually liked it. I think she likes having more space to scoot around. And now I’m not waking up at every little fuss and movement...a lot of the time she will resettle and go back to sleep on her own and doesn’t need me. So glad we are in a better spot because I also am going back to work next week and need more consistent sleep!

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I always swore I never would but I have done it since he was born. I've tried from the beginning to get him to sleep in a bassinet and even a co sleeper but he won't have it. Now I absolutely love sleeping with him. My boyfriend not so much.

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We did it for 3-4 nights during the sleep regression. I love the snuggles but I hate how jacked up my body gets and how I can’t even get up to pee without waking her. We got her to sleep in her crib and it was glorious for about 3 weeks. Then on Wednesday she had a low fever and since then she’ll only sleep (naps and at night) in someone’s arms. We don’t know what to dob

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It’s biologically normal for your baby to want to be near you when she sleeps. Especially breastfeeding. I’ve bedshared with all of my kids until they were two and I loved it

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I only do on the rough nights (like tonight😩😩😩). If you both love it, and you don’t feel it’s disturbing your sleep, keep going! If you feel like you aren’t comfortable, work on transitioning her back into a crib.

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I never completely bed shared, but I partially do. During her 4 month sleep regression there were a few nights where she ended up sleeping with me about 80 percent of the night. I don't like to bed share though because I worry and I find it uncomfortable. What seems to work for us is I bring her to bed with me and nurse or cuddle her to sleep. I then let her sleep with me anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes and then I have my husband carefully move her to her bed right next to me. When she wakes up throughout the night I bring her back to bed nurse her and then put her right back to sleep in her bed. For her middle of the night wakings, she will usually go right back to sleep.

Anyone still bed sharing?

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