Are you a super jealous?

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I miscarried in may at 12 weeks 3 days. I struggle on a daily basis to deal with burying my own child. I can’t help but feeling resentment when my friends and family declare their pregnancies. Does any body else feel like this? Like I’m happy for them but I’m so jealous that they’re pregnant and I’m not. Why don’t I deserve a child? 😭

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I am currently pregnant and I totally 100% would not be upset if one of my friends was upset by my pregnancy. Just wanted to add my two cents. I’m sorry for your loss.

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My best friend lost a baby, and when i told her i was 3 mos pregnant, she responded that i hadnt been trying long enough and didn't deserve the baby. She kicked me out, and we didnt speak for years. I was so sad, and it was horrible.
Then i lost one last October, and my sil announced her pregnancy three weeks after my loss. I had two options, be jealous or be loving. It was so hard, but I physically forces forced myself to correct my jealousy every time it started. 
Theee months mater i got a positive and started bleeding the day of. I told her that day how envioud felt again as she was almost due, and she confided in me about her multiple losses. She prayed with me, and checked on me daily. Now our girls are a year apart.
Its normal to feel those things. Just try to not let it make you a poor human. I hope this is your year luv.

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I feel like some jealousy is normal. I’m so sorry for your loss. I miscarried back in July, and it was really tough. I knew everything that could happen but I though no way it was going to happen to me. I had to have a D&C and I cried for days after which I found out I had a blood clotting disorder/gene mutation. I was so heartbroken. My husband and I have a couple we were really close with whose pregnancy went in with no problems. She’s having her baby tonight. She was also eight weeks ahead of me. My husband has family who also got pregnant around the same time and they are due five days after what would have been my due date, their pregnancy carried on no problems. Which I wouldn’t wish an other wise. I found myself feeling so bitter and so jealous. It hurt my heart to see their pictures and posts and listen to their excitement which made me feel worse for being so awful I just wanted my baby. I found out I was pregnant early December and I’m almost 7 weeks and baby is healthy with a heartbeat this time. I’ve learned to be excited for them but it took me a little bit. Wishing you a happy new year 😊

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My first son was stillborn last year, and it was so so very hard not to feel jealous of my friends who went on to have healthy babies, or other friends who got pregnant. I was so happy for them, but it was also very hard. Totally natural for you to feel this way. I'm currently pregnant with my rainbow, and I'm also jealous that I will never again have a care - free pregnancy, dealing with so much anxiety and fear.
BUT you do deserve a baby, and your time will come. Sometimes these terrible things happen, but you are going to be stronger and more compassionate for it in the long run. Just take your time, grieve your loss, feel all the feels (good and bad). If you need to take a bit of time away from your pregnant friends, just be honest with them, and I am sure they will more than understand.  Even though I was envious, I oddly enough found it comforting to be around my friends and their babies (although I did opt out of a couple baby showers). But you need to do what's right for you.
All the best ❤️

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