Help.. fellas foot fetish gone too far

So. I don't even know we're to start. I always knew my partner had a foot fetish what was fine by me but the past year it's got extreme wanting me to wear shoes so he can kiss and lick them and do his bussnies to.. even after we have sex and he cums he wants shoes and masturbates again.. I really wish I could say this is a joke but it's not.. it's getting me down as I feel like I ent good enough yeah I've told him but he goes in a mood.. he also likes being kicked in the balls.. we're trying for a baby and obv that isn't ganna be doing anything good to the swimmers .. been together 12years so not something I want to walk away from but would love some advice.. to embarrassed to talk to friends about it