This may be tmi, but I need honest opinions!

I just moved 12 hours away to a new city with my spouse. While we were packing my mom was visiting to help us load everything up, before we moved. Anyways one night he came to bed and I could tell he was drinking a little bit... He tries to have sex with me, but I told him no because my Mom was in the other room, and that just seems so weird and disrespectful to do those things with family members in the same house.

Fast forward to now- we are moved into our new home and it’s been like a month since we had sex, I’ve been telling him I want it for the past few nights and he will say he’s tired or something every time.

I got out of the shower today and went into the bed room to get dressed and he jumped up and said for me to go back, and not to walk around with the blinds open. Well here is my problem with that, the blinds were open in the living room, and I didn’t even walk out there, I was in between the bed room and the bathroom and there was no window near me...

It kind of hurts my feeling that I can be naked and have my hair done and everything and he just wants to sit and play video games.

Then he comes into the bed room late at night and I just have been acting distant with him, so he goes on saying do you want it? And I told him no, but he gets in bed and asks for me to start sucking on him. I just had to be honest with my feelings and tell him, I don’t like how he never tries to please me how I please him in bed, it’s so annoying that every time, on small occasions we have sex, he always starts by asking for me to start sucking.... Then when I do he doesn’t touch me how I want or anything, he just lays there.... While actually having sex, he goes really fast, and I can’t enjoy any of it, cause he doesn’t take his time he just gets off and goes to sleep... So after explaining those things to him, all he can say is “sucky”... Then nothing happened and I left the room.

This has been bothering me for awhile, I just don’t know how to change it, cause I can go and try to give him no sex at all to prove a point, but that would take forever seeing as how long we already go with out it.

He keeps saying he’s just stressed about us moving and everything, but even before we moved it was the same... Only on small occasions he would want it- like when he was away for work for a long time and would come home.

I think it may have something to do with the fact, I use to let him have it from behind, but it started hurting after he would do it so I stopped letting him do it, and after I stopped he isn’t as excited about having sex. I wish I could change that, but it just hurts and I physically can not do it.