How do you get out of an abusive relationship?

He lives in my house, I’m pregnant with his baby, we’re NOT married. I’ve asked him to leave and he won’t. When I try to get help he takes my phone and won’t let me out of the house. Everyone loves him. He’s very manipulative, he somehow calms me down and makes me believe I’m just having a “crazy episode” but when I’m scared and just want to call my dad he holds me down and takes my phone. Everyone I try to talk to somehow takes his side and makes it seem like I’m over reacting cause he isn’t hitting me. But isn’t trapping someone abuse too?

Like I said everybody loves him and takes his side so I don’t know how to get help to be able to get out of this situation. We agreed I wouldn’t work during the pregnancy because I have a lot of health issues, so I have no money and this is MY house so it’s not like I can run. I have no friends in this state and because of my high risk pregnancy I’ve been told not to travel.

I feel so defeated.

I should add that I don’t have a car and we live very far away from town.

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Am

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Speak to a sheriff. Let them know you are trying to get him out and that he has made you fearful for your life. Explain how he has held you down and trapped you. They will escort him off property. Then file a restraining order. You'll need to go back to work to pay bills or move in with family if need be.

Ne

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Is the house in your name and not his? Call the cops and have them escort him off your property, you might need to go to court to permanently ban him depending on the laws in your state. Get a restraining order when he’s out of your house, and get a lawyer since you are pregnant by him and he does have rights to the child as well.

Ne

Ne • Jan 21, 2019
You’re on your phone now...so you can call the cops or text them I think some allow for emergency texts as well

Le

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911 while he's sleep. or even while he is awake. It doesn't matter dial the number and tell them the address. If snatched the phone just scream help and they'll trace the call and show up.

Ma

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I think you need to stop worrying if everyone loves him or not that’s not the point. He is being abusive and manipulative to you and other people can’t see that then that’s a bigger issue that you don’t have to deal with right now. Yes this is abuse. Yes you cannot hold someone captive. You do need to get out of the house so soon as you can and call the authorities for some security and safety and they will guide you through the process. This will get worse as your pregnancy progresses and I worry for what happens when the baby comes

AB

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So go down to the police station and file a protective order and have him evicted.

Cl

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Hey girl! I have been in the same for two years! He checked my phone every 2 minutes and would manipulate anyone against me. It hurts. What happened to me ? He left. Just like that. “He needs a break, I’m too childish for him”. If u are strong enough, you can leave, but without telling him anything. Just pack and go while he’s gone. I know what I’m talking about because my ex would stay there and beg my to forgive him. It just tears u down. Good luck and God be with u!