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If you and your husband think moving will be the best for your family then you should do it. You can’t have family hold you back. I can understand your mum doesn’t want you to go that’s natural but she should understand that financially it’s what you need to do.
Never thought I would be going through this at 7 months pregnant 😕
Okay... so a year ago my husband and I moved across the country to be closer to my family. They had moved to this state four years earlier for my dad’s new job. I’ve been living away from them ever since. This past year has been great! I love living close to my family - I really missed them. Plus, this state is so much sunnier, warmer, over all better than where I was.
Well here is the problem... my husband finally got his new EAD work card we have been waiting for. He hasn’t been able to find a job in this area that pays well. We are running short on patience because my due date is in April and I won’t be able to work so he NEEDS to have a job by then that pays well. Anything we are finding either doesn’t have insurance we need for the baby or pays 10,000-20,000 less than he made before.
There is someone he knows who owns a business back in our old state who wants him to come back and work for them with really good pay and benefits.
I told my mom is heartbroken that we may move and she’s being so unsupportive and negative. I understand she is sad but it doesn’t make it any easier on me. I’m sad too if we move because I love the city we are in now and the life we have here and being close to my family. BUT we have to put our daughter and our needs first which is having money and medical insurance.
My mom is saying we should be patient and wait until we find a job here since it’s still January but my husband and I are just not sure 😕😩
Does anyone have any opinions or suggestions on this? I need unbiased and fresh insight.
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I would say do what's best for YOUR family. you guys could easily take vacation trips to visit family & they can visit you guys as well. she made the sacrifice & moved with your father for his job, she has to understand that you will do the same for your husband if it's what's best for you & your family! sure it'll suck but I'm sure it'll all work out!
I’m sorry your mom is being unsupportive. If I were you, I’d tell her to think about what she would have done if it were her in this situation. You can’t sit around and wait for a couple of months for a job to come around. If he was offered a really good job, he should take it. You have to do what’s best for you and your baby.
It’s your life, not your mom’s. If moving back will ease your stress, guarantee good work and still able to visit, it seems like it’s a good idea. You did the situation you’d go back to for 4 years, you know if moving back will work. Otherwise, at worse, if you can afford to live on 10k less, do it and your husband will get a raise eventually or find another job when there is another opportunity.
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