So I’m writing this for my 60 year old mother who is dyslexic and sometimes finds computers, paperwork, phone calls and the like difficult, so I do all that for her when I can.

So the background on my mum is she got married to my father 27 years ago. (I’m 26 by the way with 2 children and one on the way). All I’ve known from growing up is my mother caring for my father who passed away 2 weeks ago.

My father was disabled and was mentally ill, he was a great man. Very loving and always put others before him. He was my best friend and taught me so much in life.

Now the sad thing about this is... my mum is now left on her own with no income as when she was a carer (for more than 20 years), she claimed carers allowance and my father got disability allowance and they got by for many years.

I don’t think my mother worked before my dad became unwell. Back in them days the man went to work and the women looked after the children which that was what she must of done with my older sister.

To get to the point.. my mum as had to claim universal credit.. the dreaded benefit that no one wants to be on including my mother.

Being 60, my mother is some what old fashioned and is not great with technology at all, she’s still mobile to an extent but she as a very bad back (can’t stand for long). She had a few problems which are hopefully being resolved such as an operation to have her gallbladder taken out soon as she’s been terribly unwell for many months, not eating, being sick, masses amounts of heartburn and acid reflux. Consultant said the op won’t be a quick fix, she could be ill for some time afterwards.

Now universal credit want her to work and her to work NOW. Unfortunately she can’t but needs to have some sort of income to pay rent etc.

I need your help.. is there any jobs for a 60 year old women to do with the problems she as? Or is there an alternative to this in any way possible?

I just can’t see my mum suffer after the death of her husband as it’s been a great shock to us. I just want my mum to be happy for the rest of the time she has on this planet.

Now you could say why don’t I help her.. my life as been a rollercoaster with mental health issues and severe depression and anxiety so I current don’t work.

We are a working class family and just get by.

Please be nice to me with your comments. I myself am going through a tough time with my fathers passing.

I just need some advice.

Thank you

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