I’ve been close friends with this guy I’m seeing for 4 years now. We met freshman year of college and started hooking up our sophomore year. He’s told me he‘s attracted to me and has feelings for me, but doesn’t want to officially “date”. He’s also never dated anyone before.

We basically became friends with benefits, but it was him that wanted that to be mutually exclusive. However, I found out he was actually hooking up with a friend of ours also, and lied about it when I asked him.

I dropped him completely and hadn’t spoken to him for a whole year, but we ran into each other on campus recently and decided to get lunch that day. One thing led to another and we started making out in his car....

We obviously are still attracted to each other, and he hadn’t been with another girl since then (this is true, our whole friend group can testify that). He wants to stay friends again, with the occasional hookups, but I just want to know why some guys are so against dating.

He said, “we’ve basically been dating all these years, I haven’t been with another girl, and I feel like if I ever saw you with another guy I’d be sick to my stomach”. But he just doesn’t want to “date” because he said he’s graduating this semester and doesn’t want me to feel like he’s not giving me enough of his time.... I feel like that’s bullshit, but I’m just curious to see if any guys have a opinion on this