So my husband and I have had it rough since day one.

Or should I say I've had it rough.

First I had to deal with his bipolar and wild ex wife, who eventually disappeared thank God. So now we have his son to ourselves and that part is history.

But besides that's, I've struggled with a lot.

His son is our old child. As a woman, I have maternal instincts that my husband puts aside because "you are not his mom" or "I'm being too strict because he's not mine and I don't love him like a mom". Mind you all I'm saying is get that kid off the Xbox and let's get him a book to read. Also to note, all I ever wanted was a child and having him in my life is a dream come true.

Long story short my husband is a lot of work. He doesn't cook, clean. All he does is take the trash out once a week (even though we pay for twice a week but he says what's the point of doing double the work) and he drives his son to school every morning. In the afternoon when I don't work I pick him up.

He works from home and so do I. But I often leave to meet with clients or to go on shoots (I'm a photographer, sometimes I shoot for 10 hrs straight with no breaks and get home late) he's on his own schedule and sometimes doesn't work at all for a week straight.

When I'm not working I'm cleaning or cooking.

When he's not working he's doing research on new technologies in his pc.

He's essentially my teenage son, my husband.

I'm tired. Why can't I ever come home to dinner ready after a long day? Or to the kitchen clean?

This has affected our sex life. I'm not in the mood. Not only bc I'm tired but because I'm losing respect for him. I'm not about to have sex with someone who just lectured me about backing off on his son, who lives with us 100% that I treat like my own.

I've put up with this for 4.5 years. Now that it's affecting our sex life he's having a problem with me.

He said sex is very important to him and the fact that it's only like once a week or once every 2 weeks isn't working for him.

Lol.

I've told him his behavior towards me isn't working for me a million times before his... But now things are actually serious for him because it's affecting his sex life.

I told him, what about my issues with you? Will those change?

I've tried being the bigger person and giving him more sex to see if he'd be more considerate, that worked for the first 20 mins after the sex.

He's a nice guy, he's pulled me away from depression just by giving me a family....not by actually even recognizing I had depression.

We got married last April bring ttc since then with no success. I'm on my tww.

I don't know what to do.

What do I do? :(