So my fiancé and are not expecting yet but i did express to him how I want my birth to go.. I want it to just be him and i during the birth and for skin to skin I want to bond with the baby a long time before any visitors.. he has his dad and step mom and his mom and step dad and I have my mom and dad.. that’s 6 grandparents and he also has his son so the first visitor will be his son and then the grandparents I told my fiancé only him and I can kiss the baby and he don’t agree with me and this caused our first argument because he told me it’s not about me it’s about the baby and I told him the hell it ain’t I’m carrying for 9 months so I will take how ever long I need with our baby.. so I just started stressing over it because I want birth to feel special and bonding moments with baby and I feel like he is just like well out comes baby = new relative for everyone and it’s everyone’s baby.. I will be a first time mom so let me be a FIRST time mom! He has a son from a previous marriage but that gives nobody any right no matter how many kids they had or raised to take those first moments away from you.. yes I want it to be as perfect as possible but my expectations are not unreasonable I want people to respect my decisions.. I know it’s not going to go as planned but I want as much control of my labor as I can hold and having people respect my wishes especially my fiancé, would add Less stress.. now I have decided that when I get close to having a baby I will let the grandparents and my fiancé know how my birth plan will go and I will also let the doctor know what I want.. I’m just mad because I don’t want them to kiss the baby and I think the grandparents will try to and my fiancé isn’t supportive my wanting that rule.. he thinks that family should be able to hold hug and kiss the new relative.. I want to be a first time mom with out people saying “Oh she’s reacting like a first time mom” or “by her second she will be less strict”.. let me be strict if I want to if it helps me control what’s going on with my pains and changing body and being a mother let me have control of my birth.. because you had yours. I’m sorry it’s just a rant but women our birth is ours not anyone else’s.. my fiancé is a good man he’s perfect in my eyes and I know it’s from love of family that he feels this way but he has to change that thought and be on board with me since that’s how it’s happening 😂

How did you approach your family about such things and how did they react?

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