i’m 30 weeks 6 days and am due on April 2nd. this is my first pregnancy and i am over the moon about it, but i feel like my experience has been a bit negative. i share a due date with my boss’ wife. (lets call her Susan). for some people that may not be a big deal, but it’s difficult for me. we live in a small town so we can’t avoid each other and everyone knows about our pregnancies. when i tell people my due date they say, “oh, you have Susan’s due date!” like no, it is MY due date AND it’s her due date. but people act like the due date is her territory and i’m just renting it.

when Susan and I first found out we shared a due date we were friendly about it, but over time it started to feel like a competition. when i would post a bump picture, she would post one after. when i make a status update about my pregnancy, she would feel the need to do the same. but she has just as much of a right to post on social media about her pregnancy as i do; it’s all part of the experience. but it feels so bitter. i always react to her posts about her baby and comment nice things, but she never does the same to my stuff about my baby. a couple months ago i posted a status that said “only 5 months left until my baby’s due date” and she commented “Um? Yeah. Mine too.” is it just me or is that so negative??

not only do we share a due date, we are both having girls and will be having them in the same hospital. and our baby showers are right on top of each other; hers is the day after mine.

i think a lot of her bitterness is for good reason. she and her husband were trying to get pregnant for years and suffered a few miscarriages before finally getting a healthy pregnancy. whereas my boyfriend and i got pregnant on accident just a month after deciding to stop abstaining. i can completely understand why that would be frustrating for her. she has to share her experience with somebody who wasn’t even trying for this to happen.

but it’s frustrating for me too because at the end of the day i want to look back on my first pregnancy and be happy, i don’t wanna remember all this negative crap, but it just feels like there has been so much negativity surrounding all of this for so long.

how can i fix this? how can i ignore whatever negativity may or may not be coming from her in order to have a more positive end to my pregnancy? i’m sick of feeling like this is a competition. we’re about to be mothers and this just feels so High School, i don’t like it at all.

UPDATE: i’m aware that a due date is just en educated guess and it does not mean we will have our babies on the same day. i’m not upset because i think our babies will have the same birthdays, i am aware that the girls will probably be born on different days.