To start off I’m 28 weeks today!!! This is my husband and I’s first baby. Well my mom offered to throw us a baby shower. Which I thought okay cool. Well everyone else in my family didn’t even bother asking (which I totally understand nobody had to do it) but I was generally shocked because she’s selfish and only thinks about herself, her beer and weed. Well my mom said from day one you will not pay for a single thing. So I was like are you sure? My sister in law tried to help to but my mom came in and was controlling but my sister in law was like I’m gonna do this and that. She was going to call a place to reserve it for the shower but a week and a half goes by and still no call (she’s horrible about saying she’s going to do something then turns out she doesn’t do it) (she’s rather selfish to because if she’s not the center of attention then she makes everyone else feel bad)

Anyways. So my mom said order the decorations which I did. I’m the one who ordered them, and picked them out. I also had to choose the food selection, I had to hand write 80 bingo cards for this shower, order the cake, buy the pop, and the prizes for the games. I’m going to be honest me and my husband are having a hard time with money. He’s trying to get a better job but nobody will call him back (he has a really great work ethic so I don’t get it) I’m literally getting 10-14 hours a week because my work is cutting hours like really bad. So now we’re trying to pay our bills that are behind we have 2 bills that was shut off and we had to borrow money to pay em. To everyone wondering why have a baby now. We moved to another state 6 months ago so we stopped trying to get pregnant a few months before well a month before we moved I got pregnant unexpectedly. But now my mom says oh I have no money (mind you she’s an alcoholic she buys a 30 pack every 3 days plus buys maybe 100-200 dollars in weed a month plus 10 pack of cigarettes a week, but she had the audacity to tell me she lives comfortably at a job paying $9 an hr and she literally has no food in her house because she has take out delivered everyday) so I can barely buy a decent amount of food at the grocery but yet I’m stuck buying the prizes and pop and Ice for the shower. Which I was told hmm 🤔 10 plus times I’m not paying for a thing. Maybe I shouldn’t be mad. But she knows my situation but who offers to throw a baby shower for your daughter but makes her do all the work. I know I have time to do it all but honestly I’m having 2 baby showers one in Ohio where I’m from with my family and one here in KY because his mom wants to throw us one too so the one in Ohio is February 16th and the other one is March 9th. His mom is making me plan this one too. I just seriously don’t get it. I don’t need the stress because once I get stressed it makes me get sick, hair fall out, I don’t eat, I sleep all day do to depression. Everyone knows this but why do I have to be the only one and my husband doesn’t say a thing about it. He doesn’t help or offer advice. I really want these baby showers to go great but I just want to say fuck it all I’m done I ain’t going. I’m so overwhelmed that I can’t see straight!!! Does anyone have any advice on what to do? Because I’m at with ends with all this shit.