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Just a rant...
I have an almost 1 year old son and I’m currently 21 weeks pregnant with our daughter and I’m just not really sure anymore. I know that isn’t much of clarification but I really just don’t know. I hate how moody I’ve been, and my husband and I have been fighting a lot. I’m trying to break my son of co sleeping and no matter what I do, it doesn’t work. I’ve given up. I can feel it. My body has given up. I don’t want to keep going, I just want to disappear. I know I can’t and I need to keep going for my family but it’s so hard. I don’t care about my health anymore. I’ve missed dentist appointments, doctors appointments and the likes. (I NEVER miss an OB appointment because that concerns my child). And I know this is gross but I just need to rant. I don’t take care of myself. I’ve given up on trying to keep my heath up. I don’t care what I eat, how much or how little, I don’t shower or brush my hair/teeth. I only get out of bed so my son can play because I know he needs to get out and do things. I know I should go to a therapist but I just don’t. It feels like no one supports me anymore or likes what I choose to do with my son. No one supported me through when I chose to stop breast feeding, I was blatantly told that to my face. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to keep going anywhere. I just want to disappear. I just needed to rant.

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I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm pregnant again as well, but my daughter is 16 months. I've been a little depressed off and on. I think it's good to remind yourself that mostly what you're feeling is hormonal. Growing a baby does some crazy things to our bodies. On top of all that crazy you're struggling with your little one and terrified about adding a 2nd. It's a lot, you'd be crazy not to be worried. Just try to do one thing today for yourself. Take your son into the shower with you if you have to and let him play. We're trying to break night nursing and bedsharing. We've been reading up on it and I've come across some good ideas. I put a twin mattress on my daughter's floor when she was 9 months, she won't sleep in it long, but she does love it. She likes to run and dive into it. I read sleeping in the room with them for a couple weeks is a great way to get them used to it. I'm sorry someone gave you shit about breastfeeding, but fuck them. It's hard to breastfeed when your pregnant, your nipples are so sore and tandem feeding isn't for everyone. Better to wean now before your son resents the new baby if you plan to nurse and not nursing to sleep will help with the transition to his room. You do have a lot on your plate and your husband should be told how you're feeling and get on board with the things that need to happen before baby #2. I'm sure he has a lot on his plate too, but you're the one staying at home with a toddler, you're the one that's pregnant, he needs to be supportive. I know you don't have all the answers, but you will figure it out the same way you did with your son and you will come out on the other side stronger and wiser. You absolutely can do this. Step 1: Put your phone down. Step 2: Go wash away all the bullshit that's dragging you down.  I'm rooting for you!!💕

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WOW ‼️ first take a deep breath momma I have 3 of my own and I know how hectic it get and I swear to you 2016 I was feeling the same way I wasn’t brushing my teeth like I should have been , I would get dressed and not care what I put on , I would never look in the mirror , I took showers in the dark , no matter how much I forced myself to do better I felt like I couldn’t find a inch of energy to do so and NOBODY understood that ☹️ I was to embarrassed to tell a doctor , what helped me was , motivation videos on youtube , trying to think positive NO MATTER what also a schedule for yourself and the kids ....I am not 100% better but I feel 50% better then where I was before I encourage you to date yourself for a while , ITS OK TO BE SELFISH SOMETIMES . 
• set you a day of the week to have a bath night 
• go and get your hair done 
• use all the strength you have to start doing small things if you don’t want to shower atleast  wash your face , if you don’t want to do your hair at least TRYYY to comb it 
•do what makes you feel good !!
•spray on your favorite scent 
If You look good , you feel good YOU GOT THIS MOMMA 🥰 them babies need a healthy mommy ‼️

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Im so sorry you feel this way.. Please talk to your OB. Alot of women start showing signs of ppd while pregnant, and im sure they could maybe refer you to a therapist, or even give you a couple coping mechanisms to make your days easier. I hope the best for you 🙏 💕

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Sweetie you sound depressed. I got that way with my first pregnancy and felt with post partum depression with both of my boys. It starts off small with missed appointments, then mood swings, and then not caring anymore. I highly recommend you talk to your OB They can help. I was able to just see a therapist. You got this momma, sometimes we just need a little help. For what it's worth your a great mom still putting your kids first. I bet your 1 yr old and unborn baby feel so loved.

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