Telling my mom

Little back story. Long post. Sorry!

My mom provided 90% of everything I needed material wise but physically, mentally, and emotionally I had the worst mother.

Our relationship has been shit for the last 4 years, I don’t even call her “mom” I call her by her first name 🤷🏽‍♀️

Okay, so two years ago with my son I planned to announce to my in-laws Christmas Day, I was going to tell my mom Christmas eve. I planned a nice dinner for her, my fiancé, and myself. HAND MADE the announcement and everything.

Well the day of she texted me and said she wasn’t able to come. I was leaving Walmart I got in the car and cried. Immediately my fiancé got upset because I let this woman disappoint me once again. Whatever I got over it. Well later my sister calls me and asked did I know our mom was in New York. I said nope she didn’t mention it. Well my mom told my brother “I didn’t have any plans other than go eat with your sister but that wasn’t important”. Okay, cool. Little did she know I was going to tell her our good news.

Fast forward to yesterday.

We made plans to get together at 3:00. Well 2:51, she texts me and says “it slipped my mind”. Okay, cool!

Am I upset? No. Am I surprised? No. Am I hurt? No.

But would I be wrong to just let her hear the news through the grapevine? My mom is blocked from all of my social media accounts because she’s a mess but of course everything I post gets back to her.