To all the new mamas....knee deep in motherhood✌🏼💗

Soooo I’m 3 1/2 months in to this whole mommy world....sooo I practically know everything....NOT😂 but thought I’d share some insight during this part.

•when they say “sleep now”....just fucking do it, trust me. My kid sleeps til 10am-noon every day but gets up a few times at night and I’d kill for a solid 8-10hour sleep🙌🏻

•the newborn stage literally FLIES by, enjoy every👏🏼damn👏🏼cuddle👏🏼skin to skin 👏🏼moment.....

•you are going to hear lots of people’s opinions: some are freaking fantastic and others have Unicorn children & legit just wanna rub that shit in your face. Some babies are just perfect sleepers and others aren’t.....moms don’t need other moms rubbing shit in their face when they are going through a tough time.

-“my baby hasn’t slept longer than 2 hours in a row....I’m so tired”.

-“my baby slept in her crib night 2 and was sleeping through the night”

= MY personal reality.....”umm if my baby sleeps longer than 4 hours I wake up in a panic that she’s dead”💁🏼‍♀️

I also “LOVE” advice from a billion years ago and it’s like “ya Linda I’m

Not gonna rub alcohol on my babies gums, put rice cereal in my newborns bottle and cover her in blankets....that’s child abuse in 2019 bud”.

•Never EVER was I going to co-sleep....after week 1 that was basically the only way she would let me sleep super good at night and I ended up loving it. Now at 3 in a half months she sleeps in her bassinet through the night and when hubby leaves in the morning and she wakes up to nurse I pull her into bed and we sleep together the rest of the morning and it’s one of my favourite things💕

•my baby loves the boob & takes the bottle and I LOVE it....I feel like I have some freedom 🍷 & I’m not always topless, so if you’re concerned....do both- you don’t always have to pick & choose (if you’re baby is cool with it obviously).

•I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks and I handled it really well and accepted what had happened.....SO I thought....

when my daughter was born and I’d be rocking her to sleep at night I would look at her and cry because I finally realized what “could’ve been” and what I lost.....grief comes in waves & at different times. It’s okay to grieve 3 months, 6 months, 12 months afterward😢

•dealing with my husband working full time and coming home not always wanting to dote on and spend time with our baby is really hard for me and it’s something I am working on.

=he has a high stress job and does ALL our grocery shopping and cooking....then once all is said and done, sits down and wants down time....where I’m like “hey look at your adorable baby? Why don’t you read her a book?” And he has zero desire to do that.

=learning, watching and experiencing the difference between being the mother vs being the father is fascinating (my hubby is a good dad but he isn’t as obsessed with her as I am. When she was first born he did EVERYTHING (all diapers, got her to latch on my boob, cooking/cleaning, feedings, up at night) now he’s at work and I’m at home and we kind of fell into a routine where we both take care of her but I do more and he makes sure her basic needs are met and then that’s it....he doesn’t just wanna turn off everything around him and just soak her in....I think he finds it hard to bond with a 3 month old who really is a mamas girl)💕

•social media is a bitch and can make you feel really bad for not looking glam all the time or capturing a beautiful pic with the perfect filter and having a witty comment....I find myself spending time trying to think of something to say vs posting it and moving on with my day and just being present🤳🏻

•having sex is hard......its as if our kid senses that we are being intimate and having a great time & then decides she needs to eat......she’s the cutest cock blocker I’ve ever seen😂

•cabin fever is real & I need to make more of an effort to hang with other mamas but is it only me who feels like hanging with Mom friends & babies is literally just a bunch of moms co-existing/surviving in a room & TRYING to have a convo and act interested while keeping their small human alive..... 👩🏼👩🏽👩🏾👩🏿👩🏻👶🏼👶🏼👶🏼👶🏼👶🏼🗣 sometimes it’s just not worth it man....

•as you’re exhausted and covered in milk...you legit have baby fever from your own baby but like.....feel as though you’d have a mental breakdown dealing with two 👧🏼👶🏼 #thestruggleisreal

•how baby clothes literally suck ass....

=newborn, 0-3, then 3-6 IM SORRY BUT 3-6 months is VERY different.....it’s either way too big or too tight....finding the correct fit is like finding the perfect, ripe avocado🥑👖

•friendships change and basically if you don’t love my child then....”BYE giiiiirl!” Ain’t nobody got time for that!

-its weird how much it means to you when you see how much others truly love your child.

•dealing with multiple grandparents....(my parents are divorced and with new people + my husbands parents= 6 in total) trying to balance that everyone sees her and gets equal time/babysitting is a lot because they are all obsessed with her....yes it’s probably a good problem to have but I wish they all realized how much work it is on our end and sometimes (no offence) we don’t want any of them over 😝

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This whole mama thing is a wild whirlwind, the fiercest love, an addiction to baby giggles, smiles & coffee.....loving (most of the time) every minute of it💗