My BIL is the scapegoat of his family. His mother told me day 1 that he is a weird guy. It used to bug me to hear these words coming out of his own mother’s mouth and I used to defend him a lot.

I got to know him a little throughout the years and I can say today with certainty that this guy is wearing a mask. He isn’t genuine, very sneaky and self-centred.

He is odd and I have distanced myself as his manipulation skills are up there.

When my daughter was about 3 months old, he stayed at our house for about a month as he is living interstate and MIL was dying. She didn’t want him to stay at their family home and my heart broke for him so I told DH that he was welcome to stay with us which I regretted doing. He was an absolute sloth, wouldn’t contribute whatsoever and drove DH crazy.

So I was in our kitchen making lunch, DD was in her bouncer and he was watching the footy on TV. Once in a while I would go check on my baby and as I walked into our living room, I saw BIL sitting right next to her and noticed he took a picture of her which is fine by me but he quickly put his phone away when he heard my steps. He didn’t see that I saw and he looked at the TV again.

I walk towards them and notice that DD is partially undressed. Her belly and chest were exposed and it definitely wasn’t like this last time i checked.

My gut feelings were not good. I gently grabbed her and took her upstairs. My heart was racing and I didn’t know what to do. I was molested as a child and I try so hard not to be paranoid but this time I felt sick. I decided to not say a word, their mother was dying and I was hormonal too. I felt so confused..

The following weeks I made sure to keep DD real close and was being very careful.

It has been a year and he is coming back to stay with his father next week, they are going to spread MIL’s ashes.

I never told DH about his strange behaviour because I didn’t want to add an extra load with everything else happening.

I have recently been thinking about it a lot and I want this photo deleted. I thought I could ask him to see what pics of DD he has on his phone, hopefully he will show me. I could then ask him nicely to delete this photo if it’s still there and explain that I am not confortable with it.

Am I overreacting? What would you do in my situation?