TW Baby left in park

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Here’s a story I’ve just seen on Facebook appealing to the mother of a baby that was abandoned in a park. The baby was in a plastic bag and a blanket on one of the coldest nights of the year in the UK

In the comments were two schools of thought:

- those who say there are no reasons in the world to do this, and that if the baby was to be abandoned it should have been done so somewhere warm

- those who say we don’t know the circumstances of the mother (could be child/rape victim/DA victim etc) and should refrain from shaming her on a public forum and just be thankful the baby was found safe

How do you feel about this? What would you have done?

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Me

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While reading that I think that they may be trying to find her and stating her safety as a rouse to charge her. This is why things like safe drops are SO important. No matter whether she was raped or not she had 9 months to figure out something better to do than leave a child in a park where they could slowly freeze to death. She could have brought her to any fire station and she should face no judgement for that but this.... This is completely wrong

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Jo • Feb 2, 2019
Yeh I think the US safe drop idea is brilliant. You cannot do it here at all you would be prosecuted. However there are better places to leave a child than out in the open like that. I’m so glad there was a good outcome for the baby though ♥️

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B • Feb 2, 2019
Wow I didn't know you guys didn't have safe drops. That changes the story a bit I suppose if the mother dropped her in what she thought would be a safe place where another parent could find the baby.

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B • Feb 2, 2019
Yup that's my thought too. They are trying to make her feel safe about turning herself in.

co

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A little bit of both. If someone isn’t in a stable mental state, I don’t expect them to make logical, safe choices. Also I think it’s interesting because we don’t even know if the one who birthed the child was the one who left her there. So yes I would be concerned for her safety.

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𝓙 • Feb 2, 2019
That’s true!

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Qu • Feb 2, 2019
That's a valid point.

Ka

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Does the UK have safe haven laws like in the US? Here you can leave your baby at firehouses or hospitals no questions asked. There’s no reason for a baby to be left for dead in a park on a freezing night. Drop them off at a hospital if you MUST abandon your child in such a way. Unfathomable.

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It’s illegal to abandon babies in the UK so there is a petition to have safe havens made legal

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𝓙 • Feb 2, 2019
I’m wondering the same thing, I live in the UK and have no idea! Iv never heard of it 😟 surely we’d have somewhere but maybe not 😔

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I don't like the idea of any baby being abandoned but the fact is we don't know the exact situation that's lead to this.• The mother could be very young• The mother could be very young and unaware she was pregnant until she gave birth• The mother could suffer mental health issues and be in a bad place or unable to get help for it• The mother could be a drug addict who The thing is there are so many possible factors, it could even be simply the mother is a disgusting human being who wanted her baby to die out in the cold.I'll reserve passing judgment because I don't know the full story. I'm not in her situation and don't know what led to her leaving her baby, so until I do I'm not gonna condemn she be hanged for it.

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ɥɔ • Feb 2, 2019
The issue with that the mother isn't likely to stop and be rationally thinking. As much as I disagree maybe the park is well traffiked and a lot of people use it for dog walking and as a cut through

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Melissa • Feb 2, 2019
While i agree there could be reasons she was abandoned and i wouldn't judge for that, i think leaving her outside in a park in freezing temperatures is completely unacceptable. The mother could have at least left her at a hospital, restaurant, house, store, somewhere warm and safer

ka

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I can’t even make an assumption because I don’t know the moms story or the circumstances of her pregnancy or life. Maybe she was in an abusive relationship and trying to protect her daughter and couldn’t go to a safe space?.... or she could be a heartless women who just didn’t want her baby and left it to die I don’t Know. She should have taken it to a safe space no matter what though. Poor sweet baby

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Also interesting theory, The Coram Man, once upon a time there were people who were paid by families of unwed mothers to take their children to orphanages etc when the reality was a lot darker these people would leave the babies in the cold and let them die or worse bury them alive. They would go back to the families and tell them they'd been delivered safely to their new homes. Whilst it's very rare there was a case a few years ago of a gang trying the same method. It's a possibility, unlikely but still.

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ɥɔ • Feb 2, 2019
Yes she was one of the most prolific culprits. It is less common in modern society but does unfortunately still happen occasionally

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Nina • Feb 2, 2019
That reminds me of Amelia Dyer. So sad.

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I think officials are doing their job in expressing concern for the mother. Giving birth is physically dramatic, and a lot can go wrong. I would never wish anyone be denied healthcare following labor and delivery.That said, I don’t have much compassion for anyone who abandons defenseless living things (this goes for human children or animals). There is a right way to absolve yourself of parental rights, and this is clearly the wrong way. I would support prosecution of the mother for child endangerment (if the child had died, murder or manslaughter). I don’t know about the UK, but in the US we have laws that allow a mother to surrender their child, without questions, to local law enforcement.. it is Very easy to safely abandon your baby here, so excuses for putting them in harms way don’t hold a lot of weight with me.

Ni

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Safe Havens should be made legal everywhere. If someone is in the mindset to abandon their baby they are going to regardless, at least make it safe for the babe. I hope little Roman is okay and I hope the mother gets the medical treatment necessary after birth.

Or

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Omg this is so shocking. It’s literally down the road from my Mum’s home.

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Does London have safe boxes?Many, many places now are instituting a system where a mother who decides she doesn’t want her baby can drop it off in safe boxes (often at hospitals, police stations, fire departments, etc). No questions asked, no charges against her. The baby is in a safe place where it can be cared for, and the mother doesn’t have to explain her situation or be scared of facing legal consequences. This saves lives. This prevents babies being dumped in dumpsters or left in a park or any other horrific thing you’ve seen on the news that desperate mothers do to no longer have their baby. You don’t know her situation. You don’t know why she left it and felt like she couldn’t put it up for adoption legally.