Frustraided

I live with my boyfriend, we have our daughter on the way and we take care of his 16 year old brother since their mom is on drugs and can’t give him a place to live. I am currently in college. My bf works full time as a construction worker. The two of us split all the bills.

My issue is, is the fact apparently asking him if he can tell his brother as well, that it’d be helpful if they can clean off their dirty dishes, and just clean up the food they leave all over the counter tops from when they like poor cereal or something that doesn’t make it onto the dish.

But That is too much to ask for, it is me bitching, I’m lazy, all I do is sit at home, ect ect. It turns into this huge fight. Then his brother gets on my case too saying “well im not his mom” and “I’m just a bitch” and that’s why I ask my bf to tell him if I say something. It comes off better from him than if I told him cause he has no respect for me.

growing up for me, my mom was a stay at home mom. it was just her, me and my 3 little sisters. but it was still my responsibility to clean up after myself cause I am very capable of it. My mom didn’t leave shredded cheese all over the counter, I did. So why should i leave it and she clean it up? That makes no sense. And it doesn’t help I’m pregnant and I literally feel crazy cause both of them are saying it’s my fault for the house being a mess and Its just starting to really get to me. Cause I try, I try my best. As well as juggle school in between it all. I just don’t know what to do anymore. It’s getting the best of me. Am I in the wrong for believing they can do those two simple things?