My boyfriend and I want to foster to adopt a child instead of conceiving another of our own. We have a 14 month old daughter. Adopting is super important to me because I was adopted, and I wouldn’t be here today if I hadn’t been. My boyfriend keeps saying he’s not ready and doesn’t think he will be in even the next year. I’ve heard that when fostering to adopt while you have your own, it’s easier if your first child is younger. I wanted to start the process next year right after our daughters second birthday because the process can be long and sometimes can take a year. Does anyone know what’s a good age for my daughter to be before we consider adopting? I want to make the transition simple and as easy as I can for her and our foster child. We wanted to keep them close in age so we didn’t want to go farther than two years younger or older than her. What do you ladies think? When would be the right time to start the process?

(I’d like to add that he does want to foster, he’s just shaky about when he’ll be ready. He also is unsure of how to start, but we are going through his workplace as well for help because they offer a $7,500 credit to help parents adopt and he isn’t sure how to start that process)