Marriage advise

I been with hubby 9 years and lately i dont feel connected to him like we can bee for a week or longer with out sex.... Im just 28 with 3 kiddos and hes 34..... And like i dont know

Also i need to tell him or remind me of special occasions to buy me something like feb 14 is our wedding anniversary and he ask me do you want something? Like hello yes aleast flowers