So my husband and I have known each other since I was 14 (30 now). We worked together and eventually moved to different careers and lost touch. We reconnected a few years ago, bought a house and got married. We’ve just decided to start ttc. But as I was relaxing in bed tonight I started to think... I have a 9 year old from a previous relationship, father took off when she was 1 1/2. She’s a great kid, very independent and well... perfect... back on track now lol.. while relaxing I started to think if we did have a baby they would be about 10 years apart, she wouldn’t be the only child anymore and get all of our attention, less time would be devoted to her and more to the baby. Will she understand? Will life get stressful with and infant and I become snappy with my daughter because I’m extra stressed or extra tired, will she understand? I’m also scared because my husband and I have been able to relax at night once 8pm rolls around because that’s our daughters bed time. But with a baby we will need to most likely give it up because babies don’t have schedules. I’m scared... I terrified of how much life will change. Granted it will also change for the better! I’ll be getting a second child like I’ve always wanted. PLEASE I’m begging you, no rude comments. I just need advice. Am I reading too much into this? Is it kinda like getting married in a way? Where you are nervous at first but in the end you’re so happy!