I need to whine

A little backstory. My bf and i met 12 yrs ago in graduate school in Canada. We were best friends and it never went any further. We both went seperate ways after school, he got his PhD and returned to Taiwan to serve his mandatory military service and i got married had a baby and got divorced. We got back in touch about a year and a half ago and have been seriously dating since, in fact he bought a ring on Black Friday (but has been withholding until he could surprise me) and we have been trying for a baby (he's about to be 37 and I'm going to be 34, we don't have a luxury of time).

So...We finally made plans to go to Taiwan for 2 weeks in July to meet his parents etc.  He let me know that he would not be comfortable proposing before I met his parents and all was good and I lectured him about not waiting until we were IN Taiwan to let him parent's know his intentions.  Apparently for once I made good points, so Sunday night he finally talked to his parents and told them we were going to come visit and that he has bought me a ring etc.

Well...apparently I am not welcome and they now have decided to make him aware that they absolutely do not approve of me....for every reason i feared.  I'm divorced with a kid, white/american.  The fact that I'm divorced clearly means that "we do not have the same values and commonalities", and the fact that I have a kid probably means "I'm just desperate for someone to take care of me".  And me being American....if he marries me and we settle here, I'll be taking him away from his family.  Forget the fact that they sent him to Canada to school when he was a freshman in high school and his mom and aunt took turns watching them for 6 months at a time and the only other times I know his parwnts have travelled back to North America since have been for his university graduations.  

He is PISSED.  He can't understand, they raised him to be better, why are they not being better.  They video chatted with him Friday and told him they loved the pics we put up and said they've never seen him look so happy.  They've been telling him for a year to not waste time and settle down

and now they are telling him to not rush into anything because he may not really know me.   

They've known all along that I'm divorced and have a kid and...they haven't cared up until this point.  I can't figure out if they just hoped he would lose interest or if other family said something to him (they had been travelling visiting extended family all week for Chinese new year)....I don't know.  

I can't and never would ask him to give up his family...we are kind of stuck in limbo right now.  He's hoping he can talk to them more and get them to accept that he's happy and he loves me.  but I don't know what to do if they don't. I love this man more than I ever knew was possible and so does my son and my entire family. I'm just heartbroken.