AR case turning into a abuse case (CPS)

A couple months ago I had a old friend who called cps on me having concerns with my relationship with my step daughter and then another concern from the school nurse about step daughter who is not eating very much. Well it was due to her ADHD medicine and so we took her off of it and she got her appetite back. This was back in Nov. Well now we have been having issues with SD (step daughter behavior) she is very odd and adhd. She's been really destructive and super defiant. She has been seeing a psychiatrist for about a year now. Well my step daughter is picky about food. We are living off of paycheck to paycheck. Doing everything we can for food. Well we had sandwiches and my SD refused to eat it. So we took her nurse practitioners advice. If she doesn't eat whats put in front of her then she can go to bed hungry. Well we did that. And we eat left overs. For breakfast we eat what we can and if its left overs then its left overs. So SD refused to eat that too and so we sent her to school. We have been having problems with her lying and when she disobeys or lies she loses her toys for a day. We can't even spank her or anything. We had a PTC with her teacher. She said that SD has her good and bad moments. She told us that Tonya my SD has been throwing temper tantrums, refuses to her do school work, and has been yelling in class. Well, they have school colors. Green meaning good, yellow, red, blue are bad colors. She has been on those three colors and has been telling us every day that she has been on green. Well she lied to us. So her teacher is now sending home her color chart. The school counselor asked Tonya why is she being this way. Well she said mom and dad told me to be bad. Lie again. I told the counselor about her eating issue and her behavior. Anyways a couple days ago I cut off my SD hair. She loved it. Until the school counselor said that it looks like she got a hold of scissors. Now my SD is ashamed of going out in public with her hair. She talked to Tonya and Tonya told her we are starving her. Big lie. I told the counselor thinking I'm doing the right thing about how Tonya is... And I told her that Tonya does hurt animals. She hurts animals that are very small. Not big animals. Well the counselor had called CPS and reported that she hurts animals due to her parents emotionally abusing her. Big lie again. She reported that her hair cut being cut that short is me being emotionally abuse to her. Sending her to bed hungry is holding food back from her and her refusing to eat it is a abuse. Tonya had been lying about us feeding her last when I feed her first, then her daddy, and I eat last. She refuses to what she is told. She will lie to your face about anything. So she came home from school one day and said since she was on green today does she get GOOD dinner? Disrespectful! And then a couple days later I told her please stop acting like this. She said or what you and daddy will break up? She's got a bad attitude. She back talks a lot too. This little girls is getting to big for her britches. And she is only 6! She uses the CPS thing against us so we will not discipline her. I reported all this to CPS because they told me to call when having issues with her. Well I believed them. We are about to be doing family counseling and parental classes. But they are about to turn this into abuse investigation because of school and Tonya lying! She's in normal healthy weight. She's not starved. Nor being a abused!! I'll post pictures of her. The counselor snapped at me over the phone demanding to talk to my husband. She said I am making myself look bad!! What are we supposed to do? Now we are about to have a family meeting with CPS and we know how Tonya is. She's always been this way before I walked into the picture. I've been in her life since she just turned 4. Birth mom left her at the age of 2... Basically taking her toys away is abuse, cutting her hair is abuse, not feeding her what she wants is abuse, her hurting animals is a sign of us emotionally abusing her? We are about to take her to get a check up so they can do a body exam on her for bruises and etc. Are we supposed to let this girl walk all over us until this case is dropped? We are about to talk to the school principal about the counselor. We had issues like this a year ago with SD. But the school she went to didnt put with Tonya bs either. The school she does to now babys her a lot! We can't pull her out till the end of the year and put her back in that school... Im just so stressed out. :(