Is anyone hosting their own shower?

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My mom and mother in law do not get along at all, so needless to say my bridal shower turned out to be a total nightmare. My mom hosted and my mother in law kept demanding that my mom invite all her friends, she demanded menu items and wanted my mom to buy all sorts of different decorations and prizes that she wanted there. Needless to say my mom was pissed and kept complaining about it to me. It was a nightmare. 
This time my mom said she isn’t dealing with it again. So I decided to host my own shower.. it’s still turning out to be an absolute nightmare and it’s a lot for me to take on by myself. Just wondering if anyone else has to host their own shower and how are you doing it?

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I hosted both my own showers. I just plan everything the way I want it and send invitations. The two moms  are just regular guests and I don’t share many details. Just so my own thing.

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Where I’m from hosting your own shower would be extremely tacky, but to each their own! 
Maybe a friend / sister / cousin could help so you wouldn’t feel all the pressure on your shoulders?

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Where I live it’s most common for the mum or parents to host the shower anyway, and maybe have some input from close friends or family, but not really necessary. 
This way you get to actually enjoy planning your event without all the bickering of your bridal shower! 
If you’re having ladies only, ask a couple of reliable girlfriends to help set up & pack up decorations etc. 
If it’s co-ed to include your partner you will have lots of guys wanting to do the heavy lifting, work the grill, keep the drinks on ice. 
Although it was a bit of prep for us beforehand with deciding on what we wanted to do & purchasing everything in the middle of summer heat at 33w pregnant, I literally couldn’t lift a finger on the day if I tried, people were physically running at me to take things off my hands and help out 😊 
The nicest ones are the simple ones anyway. If you’re having a small gathering just have a snacks table with jars of candies, cupcakes, and order a catered platter or board for people to pick at. A nice cake, some balloons or flowers from the markets, a few bottles of wine and sodas, all sorted! 
For a party favour I love the idea of a mini bottle of Prosecco per guest to ‘pop when baby pops’ 😊

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With my first i had 2 separate showers one hosted by my in law and the other by my mom, they get a long good but have different types of parties my mom is all out loud type while my in law is religious and quiet but they were still invited to each, this timd with baby #2 my husband and i agreed on doing it ourselves so we can be in charge of how things run and what goes does and its less stressful i mainly hated the fact that at my past showers there was more random people that i never met but they knew and yeah lol so we want to just invite our only close friends and family and keep it small and intimate were both families will have a good time and so will i lol whats making it easy rn is we are making a list of decorations, guest lis ect. Instead of just showing up to one party and having to be clueless lol

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The way I see it it's your shower maybe have a friend help. And tell anyone else who thinks they can control it other wise. At that point if anyone demanding things at me belive me they wouldn't like what I have to say. It's your day! Embrace it , fight for it, LOVE it.

Is anyone hosting their own shower?

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