When to start trying for another baby...?

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Hey ladies, my little man is 2 months old and absolutely amazing. He is our rainbow baby after a year and a half and  2 losses. I want another baby, and we were thinking about starting to try again when he’s around 11 months.
Do you think being 20 months apart is too close? Would you spread it out a bit or no?
I live in Canada so I will be on Maternity leave for the next 10 months, returning to work in late Dec 2019. If we have them 20 months apart then I will have enough time working to qualify for maternity leave and not need to send my little man to day care as I will be home another year with his baby sibling. 
Thought? Or am I crazy?

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My boys are 18 months apart. This first month of being a mom of two under two has been HARD since my toddler and I are both adapting to having a new baby around, but it has gotten a little easier everyday.. however, pregnancy was really hard on my body, and I was in constant pelvic and sciatic pain throughout most of my second and third trimester, because I had no core or pelvic strength. My OB said it was most likely because I got pregnant so soon, and also because I experienced a miscarriage between giving birth to my first and getting pregnant with my 2nd.
I do feel like my body and mind are just exhausted from it all. Also, incontinence is a real thing after two close together babies and having little to no control of those muscles.
Don't just think about how ideal it sounds to have your kids close in age or how it's convenient for you because of work. Think about your physical and mental health and if you think your body will be able to handle another pregnancy so soon. If you do decide you want to go ahead with your plan, try to work on regaining your core and pelvic strength as soon as you can and try to continue doing so during pregnancy. It'll help sooooo much. And good luck. 💕💕

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Not crazy at all. If it works out that way for you and your family, go ahead. It’s nice having them close in age

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My two are 22 months apart. It's busy but fine. The only thing I would say is that it's nice to have a bit of a buffer in terms of your hours at work. Look up how many hours you need to qualify for EI as it varies by province. Any unpaid sick time, vacation, breaks, appointment time etc doesn't count towards EI. I got pregnant when my girl was around 13 months, I had to take 3 weeks of unpaid sick time in August due to a complication with my placenta and then I got put off work at 28 weeks due to threatened preterm labour so I had just enough hours to qualify for EI again, I work with a girl who came back pregnant (around 12 weeks when she came back) and because she got put off work early she didn't have enough hours to qualify for mat leave with baby #2 so she had to go back to work for a few shifts when baby was just a couple months old in order to top up her hours.

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I have a 5 year old, 19 month old and 1 month old. My first two are 3 years and 3 months apart. My second and third are 19 months apart and I absolutely love that my last two are so close in age. It has been so much easier with them than with my oldest.

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Mine are 19m apart I love watching them together

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The recommended time to wait between pregnancies for bodily health is 15 months 💕

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My boys are 16 months apart and it is hard to have two so close together but completely worth it. I wanted them close together and asked my ob when it was best to try again. He said wait 6 months if you had them vaginally and 12 months after a c section to allow your body to heal and replenish Vitamins you’ve lost

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My youngest are 20 months apart. It was a bit overwhelming when I first brought my newborn home but now she's a month old and its getting easier with them being so close in age.

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My younger brother & I are 21 months apart & he is my best friend!! I always tease that he was genuinely conceived on my 1st birthday but my parents have no idea how thankful I am that they made us so close together!! Absolutely the BEST time to have another babe!!

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Not crazy at all, you are ready when you are ready. Mine are 19 months apart and I'm happy with their age gap. Good luck!

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