So long story short my bf are long distance for the past 4 years due to college we are 12 hours away so driving isn’t too practical due to us only seeing each other on the weekends so we have to fly. Well we always planned that after he would move down by me because I still have 4 more years for my doctorate degree. He out of nowhere changed his plans and is now working at his parents business and got a raise. Kinda sketchy since he’s worked there for years, never had a raise and his parents don’t like me too much so don’t want him to move down with me. His long term plan that he wants to start in the fall is to get a government job where they assign you where to be for 3 years which isn’t ideal but I support him since by the time that finishes he can request a transfer and we can start our life. I expressed how this summer I am interning and how his job for his paretms is very flexible I asked if he could take like 2 weeks off and move in with me just so we can see if we are compatable... the past four years we have never went longer than 5 days together. I now have my own apartment and wouldn’t ask him to pay for anything but truly want to know if he gets a job somewhere and we are long distance for another 3 years that we are able to live together. He got mad since he thinks I don’t want him to work or make money this summer but that’s not it at all... I just want to make sure that we aren’t wasting our time dating. Ik every couple argues and we do to but we never have had to fix an issue we just move on since by the time we would see each other again we were happy and in that honeymoon phase. I wouldn’t be upset if he had a real job where he couldn’t take off I’m upset because it’s his parents who are his boss and their business is mainly weekends anyways and he has taken off past summers to go on vacations and all with friends so I don’t get how working on our relationship isn’t important.