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So, I’m confused 🤷🏻‍♀️.. I’ve been in a relationship for over a year now and just had a baby in December.. I recently figured out that my almost 40 year old boyfriend watches porn and masturbates to it ! He cleans up with his shirt or underwear and my 13 year old washes all the laundry! I feel discussed and offended honestly! We constantly have sex is not like we don’t.. I really think his behavior is immature and I want out! I want him gone! Am I wrong?

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Well... I’m a lady and I pleasure myself regularly regardless if I have a man or not. So it’s not weird and I would be gone so fast if someone told me I couldn’t touch myself. That sounds immature and controlling to say the least. That being said, if it’s the porn that bothers you- talk rationally and logically about why it bothers you and how it makes you feel. Maybe he would respond to that- since someone who loves you, would hate that he is hurting you.   But make sure you are not in attack mode- he will lash out or hide. Definitely won’t listen at that point.

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Yes you are wrong. Masterbation usually isnt about sex, sometimes it's just to relax or you want an orgasm without the work. And if you dont like him using clothes to clean up, you could buy some Kleenex. But bottom line, it's his body, to tell him he cannot touch himself would be an insane level of controlling behavior.  I think wanting him gone over this is being extremely over dramatic

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Masturbating is normal. However I could see you being grossed about him having it on laundry your child is doing so I would just speak to him about that part.

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It is 100% normal and natural, not just something for boys before they are sexually active. I can see telling him he needs to do his own laundry, but you want to sever the relationship? I’m confused; is he the father of your newborn? This seems really drastic over something the majority of men do.

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You had a baby with your boyfriend and you are willing to break up with him over that? Seems a little immature. If it bothers you, talk to him. But as long as it’s not creating any problems with your sex life, the man should be able to pleasure himself. The only thing is that he should probably put those shirts in the laundry himself not your child.

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I really dont see the big deal in a teenager doing the laundry,  what's gonna happen? She might learn responsibility? I mean the mom probably leaves plenty of cum and discharge on her panties, but if the cum Is the big deal just have him use a tissue, not quit making a teen do chores

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In my opinion, you’re kinda wrong. I will say that he should be washing his own laundry and not your child, but I don’t feel him watching porn should be that big of a deal. Only if it came in between talks sexual life, which it sounds like it hasn’t. 
With that being said, I am someone that’s ok with it. But if you are not, you should talk to him about the way you feel. What works for one doesn’t always work for the other.

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Girl, you need to get out more and more of an open mind. Threatening to leave a relationship because he masterbates?

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You aren’t wrong... you have a right to feel how ever you may, but if I were you I’d try to change my thinking to not feel that way. Ending a relationship because you have a partner who chooses to please himself on occasion is pretty absurd.

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Ladies 
I see y’all point.. my thing is, if he has the need to watch porn why not share it with me? I can’t even be kinky with him cause he gets all weird out and embarrassed.. I aked him to make a video one time of us having sex.. he barely agreed and then he deleted it . He said it was weird to watch it but then is ok to watch other girls?!?!

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