It’s been a month since we’ve had our baby and I’ve been off and on feeling this way ever since giving birth. Husband is always so tired from work that he just sleeps right away. Wakes up and leaves for work at 6am every day and gets home around 5pm and showers and is so tired that he just falls asleep within a couple hours.

He won’t wake up to baby’s cries unless I physically nudge him. Even when I yell “babe” and I’m 2feet away from him he won’t wake up. I even put baby right next to him crying and he still won’t wake up.

I only wake him up to change baby about once or twice a night. The rest of the time, I’m the one that’s nursing and then cradling/rocking/shushing baby back to sleep, which can be difficult at times when baby is extra fussy.

This is maybe the third or fourth time now where I just feel like crying because of how I feel. Like a combination of frustrated and sad. Baby’s crying and I’m doing everything I can to console in the middle of the night, meanwhile husband is sound asleep, won’t wake up unless I push him. Don’t get me wrong, I know he’s tired from work. But even before we had a baby he would at least be up a little longer. We’d sleep at like 10:30p-11:00p. Now I’m lucky if he makes it past 8pm. Idk why.

When people ask him if he’s getting sleep or how fatherhood has been treating him, he’ll say “honestly, my wife makes it real easy for me”, and I do. I just wish it didn’t come at the expense of my emotional well-being.