Love has no gender but her love has ran low

Please read all the way to the end... no click bait I really have a issue I just have to build up to it so u better understand thanks

My wife and I have been married now for 7 years

We both tried for 5 years to get pregnant we wanted to birth 2 kids a piece... neither one of us had prior kids Nov 2017 I was successful she wasn't but we was happy We went out and bought everything around 3k a full nursery and plenty clothes

I was in labor for 72 hours... My baby's oxygen started dropping so I had to be on oxygen... I dilated to 9 cm n my body quit I had to have a C-section

The biggest struggle have the greats rewards...Once I heard his little cry I knew what love really was

He stole our hearts and took both of our last names like it is on our marriage lincense

He's the center of our world hey we did work hard for him... We never did any IVF treatments or IUI's or medication it was all NI with a trusted friend

As he grown so has our love but here's the problem

So here is the problem first nobody considers her to be his mom they say they do but they only refer to me as his parent if Our son Mason is upset they always come to me never her even though she be in the room and I'm tired of saying "His mama is right there give him to her" btw I'm Mommy and she's MaMa... it's the ignorance that kills me... She stays up every night she goes to doctor visits u can even see it in his eyes that that's his mama from 1week to now 6months... To him he has two moms and a dad n he calls for his Mama when he needs her... but we tired of redirecting the other problem is

My wife has been trying to get pregnant since 2012 and hasn't had any success and she has officially given up... we was suppose to take turns having the kids so it will be fair... but now she had suggested that I have all 4 because she done gave up I beg her not to I always remind her baby It took me 5 consistent years month after month of negative tests and aunt flo's once I gave up and the month I said forget it boom I was pregnant... but she doesn't wanna hear it... she has officially given up... I need help what to do ladies? If I do what she says and I do get pregnant again it's going to crush her please help ladies I'm so stuck.