My husband and I have been together for almost three years, married for one and we have an 11 month old.

I recently found out for most of our relationship he’s been messaging women, asking for pictures and videos and sending them stuff of him. I found multiple messages spanning over the last several years and even while I was pregnant. The latest message was two days before Valentine’s Day this year(I found out the 27th of February)..

Husband doesn’t see it as cheating because it wasn’t physical but says he “knows he fucked up”.

The reason I found it was because I accidentally stumbled across messages between him and another woman and he denied those and said his account was hacked, I believed him(still do as he’s coughed up to the other stuff but still denies those). Well he wanted to delete his Facebook then and there so it couldn’t happen again, which made me suspicious so I went looking.. and I found so much...

He says that he wasn’t trying to cover anything up but was trying to move on and remove temptation and put that behind him.

I’ve always been the person who tells you right away to leave them if they cheat but now I’m finding myself unable to take my advice, I want to work things out, or at least try too..

But my heart feels so broken and I keep catching myself from crying at random times about it all, I feel so hurt and betrayed and it feels like there’s this huge gaping hole in our relationship where the trust was..

I just need some insight from people who have gone through this, I really don’t want any “just leave him” or anything like that, just if you’ve been through it and how it affected the relationship and if you were ever able to move past it