How long did it take you to get over being cheated on?

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It’s like I’m fine and happy and working on being the best me I can be and then boom I just get flash backs to this woman telling me a bunch of shit about the guy I thought never would do this to me. It hurts. My heart aches a little bit. I’ve known for 2 months now and I just wanna know if you ever get over it? Does it ever stop bothering you and making you feel like you’re not enough or men are just bound to cheat. I don’t want to feel that way. But I can’t help it. All the men I grew up around cheated so I had that mindset when I was young. When I met him I thought I found the diamond in the rough. But nope. Ugh I just don’t want other people’s actions to affect my emotional health anymore 😭

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You want the truth, you would never get over it. 
Even though my husband didn’t physically cheated on me, he texted his coworker from another state and was flirting with her. They don’t talk now and he regretted ever since because he wasn’t raised that way. It was a weak moment and I forgave him but honestly I still think about it. It has been almost 3 years. I trust him and I know he would never ever do that again but still I think back to that day.

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I was cheated on a couple years ago. It doesn’t directly affect me. I have liked and dealt with other guys since then. However, I realize that I’m still guarded and relationships actually are so foreign to me. I find it very difficult actually. It’s as if I have to re- learn everything. I would disagree and say that you do get over it. People end up loving and forming new relationships. However, it does require doing some emotional work. Internalizing the cheating (i.e thinking it was your fault or you not being good enough) is the hardest bit. In reality, how can it be your fault that someone made a selfish decision? So yes, I do acknowledge that it happened;but if I do end up in a relationship I have to separate the experience of being cheated on from the new man in my life. Why should I emotionally torture myself when the person who cheated on me is also living their own life. I deserve love too, unfiltered. 🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

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I never did. TRUST ISSUES

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I’m going to be so real. You never fully get over it. You’re always going to think about it and remember it, but it’s not always going to hurt as bad as it does now. I was cheated on with my boyfriend of a year and 3 months and out of now where I got all of these screenshots of things my man was saying to these girls. It tore me apart. It’s been awhile now and it took forever to get over, but you need to remember you’re better than him. Use this to push yourself and make yourself a better you and even to build your confidence! Easier said than done, but it’s doable. Like I said the thought and memory will always be there, but how long that pain stays with you, is all up to you and how you want to take it and deal with it. Sending love your way❤️

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I think it depends on the person but I felt better after reading about the "grief ball in a box" (google it). I feel like this is a very similar situation to understanding how your feelings will change over time

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I'd never get over it. I wouldn't even try.

How long did it take you to get over being cheated on?

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