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That’s exactly what it is. You said “negative thoughts” it’s not stupid.. but it’s just being human. Sorry you can’t afford a counselor. So in the mean time I suggest you try this for at least 1 week and see what happens. It can’t hurt to try. At this point there’s nothing to do but to try. Take captive of at least 1 toxic thought. Just 1. It could be “ I can’t” or “ I’m sad because my bf left Me” or “ i have low self esteem” some of the examples I have are general. So day 1. Let’s say you choose “ I have low self esteem” and then you reflect. You ask yourself what that negative thought prevents you from! So you can maybe realize and say “ it prevents me from being happy, from taking charge of my life, from making new friends,from pushing myself..” and etc.. Next ! You will then journal down what you thought for about 2 minutes the most and let it all out what you think about that stupid thought and how it’s affecting you. Next! You will then tell yourself how you can change that way of thinking? What negative things did you write that should change? For example you can say “ the problem is that I’m basing my identity in my mistakes and accomplishments but instead of basing my identity on those things I should understand that I was born with a purpose and I am my own person. My failed relationship doesn’t get to control my emotions or identity” and last! You will create a positive alternative thought! This is the more important. You will only work on one negative thought for 21 days. For example when you start thinking “ ughh I’m a no body..” you quickly tell yourself “ I’m a person with a purpose and I was fearfully and wonderfully made” or you can say whatever is meaningful to you. Practice saying this to yourself 7 times a day! Each day you will try to get deeper to the core of the one toxic thought. Example, Day 1 “low self esteem” then maybe day 2 “ I keep thinking I’m a loser” day 3 “ low self esteem because I feel like no one will love me” up to day 21. If you can’t get any deeper then that’s okay. But keep practicing positive thoughts!! We have the ability to change our way of thinking. The way we think controls how we feel. As you keep doing this it will be very hard at times but keep pushing and you will eventually see after 1 week some improvement! If youre interested look up neuroplasticity. It’s possible to change our brain. Our minds control our brains. And most importantly, i believe in God and Jesus Christ. My identity is found in him🙏❤️ he has never left my side. I pray that you get out of that depression! 👍
Constantly feeling sad
It won't stop. I have this awful feeling all the time. I get points where I think what would happen if a car just swerved and hit me. It's stupid to say but I've been so down, this empty feeling inside, I wanna cry all the time. I'm all alone, my so called friend isn't around anymore when I need her the most she doesn't wanna know, I have no other friends. My ex broke my heart and left me with some really bad emotional damage. I constantly beat myself up. I continuously have all these negative thoughts about myself how I wasn't good enough for my ex. I don't know what to do. I can't afford counseling and the free counseling they offer has a long waiting list. But I miss feeling okay I miss not feeling sad all the time. It's been like this for months and I have no idea when it's going to end or even if it will
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Oh and each day for the reflection you will reflect how you did with practicing the positive thoughts the previous day and journal down how it went and what you can change next. Each day you can choose to switch up the positive thoughts or use the same ones to train your brain to think positive rather than focus on the one toxic thought. You can even simply also visualize positive things. For example, when I struggled with crippling anxiety and I had an anxious thought I would imagine myself putting that anxious energy in my hand and it would be shaking in my imagination. I’d put it in a jar and throw it to the ocean and then I’d say “ it’s gone!” Which also helped a lot. And some days I would just tell myself a bible verse that would help or say “ I can do this, I have no fear in me”
When my Mom passed away, it felt like a part of me had died right along with her. And it didn't help finding out that I was pregnant just two weeks after she passed away. I was depressed. I'd even get up in the middle of the night and go to her room and just cry... couldn't cook without thinking about her. And I missed her so much. I was drowning in grief and sorrow, but I had to pull myself together, somehow, especially for the sake of my baby and my family. I felt like I needed something to take my mind off of things. Mama loves Gardening, so I decided to plant some of her favorite flowers, zinnias. She also loved growing gourds, and so I planted some gourds too! I also threw myself into some DIY projects. My husband brought me home this wooden cable spool, which I sanded down and painted it to look like a whimsical mushroom. It was red with a white stem and grass and lavender growing all around it. The paint has begun to fade so I'm gonna redo it this summer, and seal it with resin or polycrylic. It made me happy seeing all the little flowers grow and seeing all the new little butterflies that they attracted. I took pictures of them. The gourds, when they're dry, you can make beautiful works of art with them, and bird houses, and also yarn bowls, jewelry too! But surely there's something that you can do to help take your mind off things. You could give Gardening a try... or work on some kind of DIY project. I also did other things too to keep myself busy and distracted. For instance, I started taking pictures of mushrooms and fungi, so I'd go for walks and look for mushrooms to take pictures of, and then I took the time to learn about mushrooms and fungi. I also took pictures of butterflies and all my flowers. It really helped me, and I know it has helped a lot of my friends and family as well with their depression, especially during times of grief and sadness... so maybe you can come up with something that you can do to help take your mind off things. Good luck sweetie. I'll be thinking of you.
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