Are we meant to be?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over four years and in that time traveling has been a huge part of our own lives, but we’ve never traveled together. He always stays we should go together, but it’s only a spur of the moment kind of thing, never ready to commit when it comes down to it. I of course get my hopes up and start to plan but when I ask when he wants to go, he already has made his own travel plans without me included. Then when I’m upset and down he says that it’s my fault for expecting too much and letting myself get my hopes up.

We’re also starting to get to the point where we’re ready to move out. We’ve both talked about moving in together, looked at apartments and figure out budgets for it. Then just last week he goes against everything and says he wants to wait, and hasn’t said a thing since. His mom gave him the advice that he should just continue to live at home and only move in together when we’re engaged. I was heartbroken when he told me because I thought we were ready to take the next step but now he’s holding back. Now he’s saying he wants to wait at least 10 years until we get married when I was hoping it’d be in the next few years.

We’ve been together for so long and I’ve given him so much time to be ready to take our relationship to the next step. I love him with all my heart but I don’t know how to handle this anymore.