Am in the wrong here?? *with screenshots*

Question

So I’ve had a tough time recently. I’m going to court to get a restraining order and pressing charges to finally end a terribly sexually, emotionally and physically abusive relationship that has lasted 5 years. I reblogged a post on Tumblr that said “I know it’s wrong but I still think of you, you’re driving me crazy. I don’t know what it’s like to be free from you anymore.” 
Wellll, my boyfriend saw it and FREAKED out. We got into a nasty argument, and I need a fresh perspective. Do you think I overreacted? Am I to blame in this situation? You can be honest and harsh, I don’t mind. I’m just so confused.

And just so you guys aren’t confused, the last two screenshots are from a couple hours following. Thanks so much in advance, I know it’s a lot to read but I’m so confused.

Accepted Answer

I think you’re wrong. It looks like you’re still hung up on your ex, that’s really shitty for your boyfriend and must be frustrating

Answer

I agree that you’re in the wrong. You absolutely should not have had to go through that abuse BUT you are obviously still not over him and you’re posting on social media about you having feelings for him still while you have a new boyfriend. Maybe you guys should take a break so you can get back to yourself and get over him before you start something new? Idk just a suggestion. But I can see that you are clearly hurting your boyfriend and he is right to be upset about that I would be beyond pissed if I saw my boyfriend posting about how he still had feelings for an ex and you probably would too if it was vice versa.

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I think you’re both in the wrong if I’m honest.. I know what it’s like to be in a abusive relationship and that part of your life will never go away, and that’s okay to think about nd still have thoughts about it, and what you reblogged isn’t the end of the world but I do understand from his perspective try and put yourself in his shoes and see if the roles were reversed and he reblogged that about his ex girlfriend how would you feel? And if you’d truly feel some type of way then I guess you need to say you understand and you’re sorry for upsetting him but it wasn’t your intentions but unfortunately this part of your life will never go away, and you’ll always think about it. Also I don’t like the fact that he’s acting like he’s doing you a favour for being your boyfriend that part confused me... you were right for saying “my hero” ngl that made me laugh a bit 😂

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You are both in the wrong. He is jealous of your ex and clearly has anger issues himself and you have moved on too quickly without fully getting over what your ex did to you (I suggest therapy)

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I know exactly how you feel. That feeling of being trapped will probably never go away. I’m sorry your boyfriend doesn’t understand that.

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Could of been handled better on his part but I can 100% understand his feelings behind it, he’s trying to be there for you and help you get over your abusive ex and it must feel like a slap in the face to see that you are still thinking about him (even if they’re bad thought) how is he supposed to know? He just wants you to be able to move on and by reposting stuff like that makes him feel like you’re stuck in the past and not moving forward to a better life with him which it sounds like he’s desperately trying to give you. I understand you’ll never forget your ex how could you but I would try to keep those thoughts to yourself or seek out a therapist to talk to about him so overcome your trauma

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Time to get that fishing hook out and throw it in the sea, there are better fish then that bs.  A partner should be a friend and equal with you, not think that they're above you and flip on you like a bipolar coin that has temper tantrum issues of a 5yrs maturity level. So my advice would be to get rid of him, you said you just got out of a very rough abusive relationship... well hun that Boy right there is nothing But MENTAL abuse, save yourself the trouble and get out of there.

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Can’t be bothered to read all the screenshots but you’re in the wrong. If you were in his shoes and he was posting about his ex how would you feel? I’d feel crushed or that I wasn’t enough or that you were still hung up on him.

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You both are way too immature to be in a relationship with anyone. What you did was fucked up, posting about an ex that you know your boyfriend will see. Even having a new bf while you’re still hung up on your ex is a huge red flag that drew should have seen and not gotten into a relationship with you in the first place. You need to spend some time being single and healing from your past relationship before starting anything new. You were rude and very inconsiderate of your current bfs feelings. You have a lot of growing up to do. I didn’t even vote because the option for both of you being wrong wasn’t an option.

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i really don’t think you’re in the wrong at all but that’s just my opinion.

Am in the wrong here?? with screenshots

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