Do you feel protective of your assaulter?

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I was sexually abused by my dad from a very young age until about age 13. Even after the abuse stopped, I would find pictures of myself on his camera that I don't remember ever being taken of me, and I once discovered him watching me bathe, and he had apparently been doing it for a long time. While I had told a few people I had been molested, I always protected his identity. I didn't feel like I should protect his identity, but I wanted to. Sometimes I pictured his life in jail if I told, and I truly felt sorry for him. Like, how could I put him in prison? I guess I long for the picture of normalcy that everyone sees. He is very sick now, and will die within a couple of years, and I'm not sure how I will grieve his death. It makes me sad, but sometimes I'm also indifferent.  
It's like I want our relationship to move along like gears are supposed to grind, but some pieces don't quite fit right and jams things up sometimes. I can almost feel normal, but then I remember what did to me for so long, and then I feel so angry. It's an emotional roller coaster...has anyone had similar feelings or situations?

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My main assaulter was an uncle. I passed the statute of limitations to file against him.... I have spoken out to family, mostly confirming order of incidents. I was careful not to specifically name him to make sure I couldn't get charged with slander.

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I've had 3 rapes and only 2 people know the identities of any of the rapists. My fiancé knows the two that I know who they were and my brother knows one.

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My brother sexually abused me for a year from when I was 8-9 years old. I was forced to report it to the cops (long story), but I refused to press charges. My brother has apologized for it and wants to try fixing the relationship. And I want to fix it too...All I want is a normal relationship with him. My SO usually wants to beat up my brother for what he did, but whenever he talks about it I tell him not to. It's weird...I want them to get along, but I dont at the same time? Anyway, everyone recovers from abuse differently, and its okay. As long as you're not wanting the abuse to return I think its fairly normal.

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I can't put myself in your shoes, as bad as it is that he did that, I do understand how you feel, in a way       ( the only way I can understand ) my dad never did that, but when it came to punishment, he was very hard on my with it. Also something a little girl shouldn't have to go through. I don't know if it was abuse, throwing a little girl literally through a wall, or across the room. Having a ice skate thrown at my head because my room wasn't clean, hit in the face, I went through a lot, a lot of yelling, screaming and anger growing up. Even at 19, because I came home late, being pushed to the floor and choked, and smacked in the face causing a bloody nose. It stopped. He's apologized to me, he is my father, I love him, but I also get angry when I think back. He had a "wake up call" and never hurt me (us) again... He's older now, and regrets a lot, my mother recently left him after 35 years, and he's lonely. I don't ever want to lose my parents, but I did ask him why.. People can say your father is a monster for what he did, and I'm not say it's right at all, but I understand you. Maybe ask him why he did what he did to you. If he's going to pass soon, maybe asking him will help you get some closure. You're not the only one who feels this way. My SO's ex wife's father molested her and her siblings, he ended up taking his own life, but she and her family think he was the greatest man, she's even told my SO that, "he'd never be the man her father was..." That's right, bc he'd never do that to his daughter. Try getting an honest answer from him. Best of luck. 💚

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If I ever see the men who raped me, I'll put a 9mm chunk of metal in each of their heads.

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I've known him since he was in 6th grade. I love his parents and his brother. He and my brother were teammates for years. I can't stand to break his mother's heart. But most importantly, I can't risk losing my dad, because I'm almost sure he'd kill him and go to prison for it.

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He was my best friend and I turned to him when I needed comfort and I saw what he really wanted from me all along, I told a stranger I met at a festival what happened and she was so nice but when she started talking about reporting him and I felt so sick the thought of what could happen to him if everyone knew what happened, I feel like he doesn't deserve it but then I can't get out of my head what he did, I'm still confused by the whole situation and it's been nearly a year 😔

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I was raped twice by 2 different guys, the first one I feel protective of the second i do not

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I hate him but i feel protective of him/her.

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I was molested by my sister. I have a hard time understanding what happened and why she did it. But I protect her all the time and even when I tell people she did it I still defend her

Do you feel protective of your assaulter?

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