Inseminating at home/Venting

tay • TTC for baby one with my amazing wife. Married 2 years. Together 8 years.
Hello lovely ladies. So I'll try to make a long story short. Wifey and I decided to try for a baby. We, at first, had decided to go thru a doctor to do everything as we already knew we wanted an anon donor. We have a few picked out from various different websites already. I've gone to 2 appointments and already I'm a little unhappy with the way things are going. I was given a list of medicine to start taking to "help me" conceive (meanwhile I haven't even tried to yet...). I'm a healthy person, aside from having asthma, and it seems crazy that I have to go through all this just to have a baby when other people can just go have sex and *poof* baby. 
After using this app for a few months, I've got a pretty good idea of my cycle but I haven't actually night an ov kit yet. For those who are going the at home route, what are you doing? How does it work if you have an anon donor?
I'm honestly thinking this is the better option at this point but I'm just worried, mostly because there's so much I don't know!!! The doctors appointments are already making me impatient and we haven't even discussed when we might inseminate yet because there all these processes they want you to go through. Not only that but my gyno is crazy busy and I was supposed to have an appt on Sept 23, it was cancelled and rescheduled for Nov now!! I'm just so frustrated and I wish this was easier. 😕 
Any help or advise is so appreciated. 👶🏻💜