Do i have a right to be annoyed?

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My grandparents have a rule about no phones at the table which I abide by because it's basic manners and my parents want to enforce that rule when we have kids. Well I'm pregnant with child #1 and I'm completely fine with the rule of no phones at the dinner table as it's simple manners. I told my boyfriend it applies to us too and he's kicking off.
He says it's not "1970"s anymore and he was "brought up differently" and "they can't control him or tell him what to do" which i find extremely disrespectful. I told him if my family has rules for their house he has to follow them like the kids and he refuses to because he sees it as them controlling him. So I'm now angry he's disrespecting my family and their rules in their house.
I think it's manners obiding by peoples house rules even if you don't agree. Do I have a right to be annoyed?

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It’s their house!! If he wants to be included in dinner he can be respectful or gtfo!

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I’d be more worried as to why he can’t be off his phone for a damn dinner! We weren’t raised that way but my sister has implemented that rule at her home. So when I’m over I abide by her rules and it’s sooo nice we all talk to each other and I get to hear the things my 13 and 2 year old niece say! Honestly if he’s upset about that it’s a huge red flag. I would rethink being with him. Its not a crazy rule. It’s actually more common nowadays because people are ALWAYS on their phone. You have a right to be pissed! I would be!

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What's he gonna do once baby gets here be on his phone the whole time and not pay attention to your child. If he cant be without his phone in his hand for just dinner then hes got a problem.

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Yes you absolutely are right. It doesnt matter how he was raised it's not his house. Grandparents house, grandparents  rules....when he is in his own house he can have some say about what happens at the dinner table

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It’s not his house so he should follow the rules . Also it’s not a big deal not having phones at the dinner table i find that rude too .

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If he wants to be included in on their dinner and invited into their home, he needs to respect their rules.
I understand where you’re coming from. I went to my boyfriend’s step mom’s cousin’s house last weekend and they implement that rule as well.
I was brought up differently but I know how to respect others and their home. I wasn’t on my phone and it’s actually more enjoyable that way. 
It’s not them trying to “control” him, it’s just their rule. They want you to engage in family time and speak to one another and not have your head buried in your phone. It’s disrespectful that he doesn’t want to follow their rules in THEIR home. He shouldn’t be allowed to go in and participate if he wants to be disrespectful.

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You personally can or can not be annoyed by it cause it's your parents and grandparents they have the right over annoyance there. I agree with no phones at dinner. We were like that growing up and that's how we will be once my kid gets old enough

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Most definitely. That’s a slap across their face and yours because you agree with it and want the same in your future. Put the phone down for 30 minutes-an hour and talk to the people in front of you.

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So now you know your boyfriend wasn’t raised with manners and he’s disrespectful af. The 1970s have nothing to do with anything because there weren’t even any cell phones in the 70s. The only phone in the house was the house phone. He wouldn’t be invited to eat with us if he didn’t respect my grandparents.

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Thankyou! He's now saying I'm never off my phone when I'm with him but we don't have a rule against being on the phone when we wish. If there was that rule I'd put it down and we don't lige together or eat at the dinner table yet.

Do i have a right to be annoyed?

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