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We have a 18 month old boy and we want another child soon so there isn’t a massive gap. Looking at giving birth around June next year. We also want to start saving for house (it’s been difficult saving whilst renting and changing jobs and working part time). We are yet to be engaged but it’s only not happened because we can’t afford to get married but it’s something we’d love to do. We also want to go to Disneyworld in 2021 however the idea of a 3 year old and 1 year old doesn’t really sit well with me at that point. 
I’d love to have another child but I really want to get our own house but I also want to get married and go Disney....ahhh

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Personally my priorities would me get married and save for a house. You don’t need a big wedding. That’s not important. Have a courthouse wedding then plan for a big celebration on your 5th wedding anniversary (and you’ll have both kids) the last thing you want is to be dealing with 2 kids while trying to look for a house, get all the paperwork done, move in AND get settled! It’ll be much easier when you’re already in your new home and then start for baby #2. As for Disneyworld that wouldn’t be a priority right now but that’s me personally. You can always plan a vacation and I believe you can pay in installments online(not sure about that but worth checking!)

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It seems to me like you need to get your priorities in order. Which is more important.

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Getting married isnt expensive but a wedding is. So that depends on what you want. If a house is important to you I'd do that before another baby but it takes a long time to save for a house so don't put your life on hold waiting to go into more debt. Your babies will be happy and loved in a home owned or rented.

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My first wedding was big and grand, but my second wedding was at the courthouse. Saved money for our house. It’s just one day/night, not worth another 30k especially when you have kids.

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Why Disney in that year? Wait till your kids are like 3-7. Otherwise it's just for you, and that seems like a shame when you have little kids.
I'd save/plan for a second child first, personally, because sibling age gap plays a bigger role in family dynamics than marital status or what kind of paperwork ties you to your place of residence. I personally would rather have kids be 3 years apart or so. Waiting to have another child until you've saved up enough to buy a house could take years and years. 
And financially, being a home owner often isn't necessarily a sounder decision than being a renter, even though it seems like it would be ... there are a lot of invisible costs. If being a homeowner is something you want, just as a lifestyle thing, then definitely start saving for it. But don't put your life on hold until it happens. 
And I also like the idea of a courthouse wedding soon, with plans for a bigger anniversary celebration down the road.

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My first step even before the first baby would be to get married. So I’d get married. Plus it’s cheap to get a license, go to the courthouse and get it done. The next step would be to save for a house.

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Have a courthouse wedding, save for a house, then have a baby, then go to DW when the children are old enough to enjoy it. There's no need for instant gratification on everything.

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Have a court house wedding or elope. Not being engaged is a 🚩 in my opinion, no reason you don’t have a ring on your finger sounds like an excuse.
I dont have children, but told my husband I wouldn’t buy a house until I was engaged. In my head if we did there would always be another reason I wasn’t engaged/married (we had to fix/buy xyz, so your ring has to wait)

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Save for the house,  courthouse wedding, disneyworld for your "honeymoon" plan for a baby.

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Get married in Disney! There are endless spots you could get married there and just hold a small ceremony for a lesser price! My parents did a vow renewal at Disney’s Polynesian. And I see people getting married at a gazebo on Disney’s Boardwalk too. Those options can save more money than say, the Grand Floridian wedding pavilion. So my idea is to do two of your options, get that Disney trip and get married 😊

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