Terrible timing, I saw coming

I've made my decision to get induced tomorrow or asap. Im 40 weeks + 3 days. I have an AvM (arterio-venous [vascular] malformation) in my left leg and it can't take the extra weight, blood, and pressure much longer. My doctor offered to induce at 39 weeks because he figures it's not really necessary for me to go full 40. I did the research and medical journals agree. I asked my SILs and they urged against it. So I figured I would try to go naturally up to 40 weeks.

Meanwhile, my grandfather has been terribly sick and passed away Sunday night. He really wanted to meet my baby but it just didn't work out that way and I feel so sad about that. But now it also looks like I won't be able to make it to his calling hours if I get induced this week either. I talked with my mother about it and she told me to have this baby, it's what everyone is waiting for- an angel for an angel she said. That it will be good for my grandmother as well, not to worry about making it to the funeral. But I feel extremely guilty as it is and think I should be there for my grandfather's sake. I'm at a real cross roads here. I want to meet my baby like a month ago, and had a feeling this would happen. As I said though, I just can't take the pain in my leg any longer. I'm limping and it swells after 5 mins. of standing. I kind of wish I would have just went ahead with the induction last week, but didn't think baby boy was ready yet. I was only 1 cm dilated and I wanted to do some research and ask around first.