Need Opinions

So, I'm a teacher that teaches in a school that has 3 teachers per grade level. It's customary for the teachers in a grade level to throw showers, whenever the situation arises.

One of the other teachers in my grade level lost a baby a few weeks ago, she was 8 weeks along. This was her 3rd miscarriage in a year, and I had 2 miscarriages before getting pregnant with this one.

Yesterday, the other teacher told me she didn't think it would be right to throw me a baby shower because it would be insensitive to the teacher who lost the baby. She told me she thought I would understand, but I'm not sure I do. I mean, of course I feel horrible for my friend, but does that mean my baby should be cast off??

I need to add that this other teacher is also a little sour that she didn't get a wedding shower after she eloped last summer. She said she thought we should have thrown her a wedding shower when we came back to work in the fall.

Thoughts? Opinions? I'm really hurt, but not sure there's anything I can do about it.