I need help guys x

So like I’m kinda into like different links and bdsm and stuff but I don’t know if I’m a sub or not. So me and this lad have been having sex for a while and all that and he loves bein I’m control kinda thing and I love it to but sometimes I like bein I’m control for example like if I’m on top or even below I’ll try and control it... like it doesn’t always work but when I does like my days I love it 🥰🤤 but I do love him bein I’m control and bossing me around, I was kinda hoping you guys could tell me and also give me some ideas for some toys and things x