Really embarrassing orgasm question... Am I a freak of nature?

Okay so is it possible to get blue balls as a woman? I'm a grown woman so Im so embarrassed to ask. My husband decided he is a sexual and doesn't have sex anymore. I take care of kids all day with no break. I literally can't even take a shower alone cus my husband had me leave the door open cus the vent is broken. I literally don't have time to pleasure myself and sex is off the table for him. So I get extremely horny like can't stop thinking about it and I get cramps! Like period like cramps and my clit throbs. It's so weird. I even hid in the bathroom to please myself and it literally only took 5 seconds... LITERALLY. And then my cramps a d everything go away. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME! I feel like a freak of nature!! :(