Just a vent.

Sorry in advance if this seems a little disorganized. My thoughts are erratic because this is frustrating for me.

I have a friend who may or may not have gotten a woman pregnant. Her name is Liz. Liz’s baby is a few months old, super cute. I thought at first that the baby’s daddy was this guy C, because all of her “bump” photos feature C and they seem to be happy together. Once the baby was born, however, C stopped being featured in her photos. It’s just pictures of her and the baby now.

My friend, M, had a casual hook up with Liz. M says that when he and Liz were intimate, by his calculations, she would have already been about two months pregnant. He says Liz and C were on-again, off-again and also says that he (M) was recently separated from his wife and trying to casually fill the void with sex.

Liz sends M texts all the time, saying he needs to take a paternity test, saying things like “I wish you would agree to meet her”, et cetera. I was sitting next to him one time when he got one, and he showed it to me.

He usually just blocks her number and dismisses it as “there’s no way the baby is mine”. Liz seems to think it is. M told me she had had a paternity test done on C.

M lives in a small town, my hometown, and says he saw Liz’s mother in a grocery store. Liz’s mother (supposedly) told him the test was positive and that C is the dad.

When i asked M just a few minutes ago about whether or not he plans to have a paternity test done, he said “if she contacts me again.” M has a dimple in his chin, and claims the baby does not have it and therefore is not his. His daughter, approx 4yo, does not have this dimple either. This doesn’t prove anything to me, but he seems convinced.

M now has two divorces, and three kids from those two marriages. He has a habit of lying to me about small things, sometimes about bigger things, so I’m wondering if he is lying about any (or all) aspects of this. Did he really get her pregnant?

C was a friend of mine from grade school. When i texted him (sneakily) to catch up (snoop) he told me he doesn’t have any kids. Not trying to blow my cover, i didn’t press further. Didn’t want him to figure out what i was up to.

I know this isn’t my can of worms and i shouldn’t be in such a hurry to open it. But, M is a parent, and so am I. As a parent, if there was a kid out there that you may or may not have fathered, wouldn’t you want to know for sure? How can someone who already has kids take such a passive stance on this possibility? It angers me. I want to tell him to grow the f**k up. I just might.