I am so furious with him right now. . .

Hi ladies,

So last night after debating about it all week I decided to let my husband drive the 2 hours for one of his childhood best friends bachelor party. I honestly did not want him to go and kept going back and forth all week but I figured I was being crazy and it was just my pregnancy hormones making me so upset about it.

He straight up told me their plans, they'd go to dinner, go bar hopping, and eventually they'd go to the strip club. He was 100% up front that he knows that it made me uncomfortable with him going to the strip club (again mostly cause I feel like a hot pregnant mess between the constant back pain and gestational diabetes) but he promised that he would spend no money there nor would he be involved in any of the activities at the strip club. He said he'd either wait in the limo or just stay near the bar.

He had been checking in with me really regularly for the whole night and around 4 am when he was "heading to bed" he accidentally butt dials me. I wake up and answer, assuming something is wrong but nope, just his butt. My husband is a LOUD talker so when I answered the phone I clearly made out the phrase "after that I left, I couldn't touch her again". So immediately I sit up and try to listen the rest of the conversation. I listened for about 45 minutes (which makes me feel like a crazy stalker) but also heard alot more shit that I was not supposed to hear.

He also was telling his friends that he had to give their mutual friend who had been there earlier in the night a different guys number from his class so that next time he could "make his own pickup, since I'll be stuck with my wife the next few days". I went on to hear him explain that last time the friend had been too busy and my husband had to buy coke from this guy and do the deal for his friend. He went in to say he had done it a few times in fact. At this point I am SHAKING I'm so mad. He also went on to tell everyone that he hates hand jobs, and the only reason he let's me give them anymore is cause he feels bad and also claims that the only time he ever liked them is when he comes on my face without telling me. Fact, he loves hand jobs as he asks for them ALL the time since I'm pregnant and not always up for sex, and he has NEVER once come on my face.

I heard a bunch if other stuff but these are the things that REALLY pissed me off. He ended up hanging up after 45 minutes and I couldn't hold in my rage any longer. I called him and as hard as I tried not to I went off on him. He claimed that he was just "talking shit" and that none of it ever happened. He said that he sat in the limo when the guys went in the strip club and he had NEVER touched a stripper and NEVER bought coke. He is drug tested regularly due to his job, but I have no way of knowing if he's been a middle person. His friends are not the most trustworthy people and I've had a lot of issues with them in the past and some of them even bullied me in high school.

I let him go cause I didn't wanna seem irrational and I didn't wanna keep him from all his friends. I have no way of knowing if he did anything with this stripper or if he has recent bought or sold coke. He agreed to come home earlier than our agreed upon time to talk it out and hes insistent that he was just talking a big game, but I dont know what to believe. I am considering drug testing him and have also packed some work stuff for him for the next few days so he can stay elsewhere for a little bit. I'm furious with myself for agreeing to let him go but I'm mostly upset with him.

What do I do? Am I just being irrational? He made me feel like I'm acting crazy and I dont have any idea of what to do or where to start? Do I drug test him or just trust him? He'll be home in 2 hours and I dont even know what to do anymore. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance and sorry for the long post.